Your Last Love Method™ program membership includes:

• 1 year of access to the online course - 80 lessons/10 Modules, including the Super attractors' Modern Dating Toolkit (Module 10, which used to be sold separately as a standalone program)  
• 1 year of access to the Audio Library: 48 targeted subconscious re-imprinting audio sessions (meditations, exercises, and hypnosis recordings)
• 4 months of live group coaching coaching calls (via Zoom) @4 calls/month per person*
• 4 months of unlimited email coaching*
• 1 year of access to all past, present, and future recorded coaching call replays
• "Lifetime" Membership in the private Facebook community
• 55% off the non-member price for private, one-on-one coaching calls 

*starting from day of enrollment, cannot "roll over" unused calls/unused months

Let me start by asking you this: Do you want a healthy, committed, loving relationship?

Assuming the answer is yes, how much time per week are you willing to give to that relationship/partner? Between calls, texts, dates, etc.,.... do you think you can build and sustain a loving relationship giving it less than 6 hours a week (out of 168) of your time and attention?

I would venture once you find that ideal partner, you would be giving him MUCH more than 6 hours a week, but I'd say 6 hours a week is the bare minimum. 

So... if you want to be able to give HIM 6 hours, you need to start carving out that time for YOU, right now. That's part of the work, right there. Making space for love in your life, by giving YOURSELF that time, now, in service of the goal of a healthy, loving relationship. 

So, how, then?

Well, for starters you have one hour a week to jump on a live coaching call (or watch a replay if you can't do a live one). 

Then, let's say you do one lesson per day, and let's say you do 2 lessons on Saturday and/or Sunday. (Some modules are super quick and some take longer... and some lessons are super quick and don't even have any homework, while others will take you longer, but it's an average of less than 1/2 hour per lesson). So let's say it's a full 30 minutes per lesson (it's not, but I'm being generous here) That's still a total of only 4 1/2 hours for the week. Add that to your coaching call and you're at 5 1/2 hours.

Of course, you don't have to do one lesson every day. Some people choose to save them all up for Saturday and/or Sunday (or whatever their days off from work might be)

"But what about the audios and practices, Natalie?"

Well, the practices can mostly be done in mere seconds (not even minutes) as needed at any time of the day, as they are mostly simply thought processes.

As for the audios, there's no excuse not to do them, because some of the audios are less than 2 minutes, and most of your audios don’t have to add any extra time to your day at all. 

For example:

• You could listen to one of your “quickie” audios while brushing your teeth and getting dressed in the morning (no extra time!)

• You could listen to your 90-second mojo moments during bathroom breaks (no extra time!)

• And you could put your hypnosis tracks (or longer meditations) on while you drift off to sleep at night. (no extra time!) Yes, it's totally fine and still works if you fall asleep during the audios!

In addition, for video lessons (at least the ones without homework) and coaching call replays, they can be listened to while driving or doing chores around the house like dishes, laundry, cooking, etc. 

By connecting the audio sessions to things you’re already doing, you make this mental / emotional / energetic “hygiene” a normal part of your life, instead of stressing over “fitting it all in.”

This is a self-paced program, so depending on how fast you want to get out of the pain you’ve been in, and into a loving relationship, you can determine how much time you devote to it. We’ve had people go through the program in as little as 2 weeks, and just stay on for the coaching calls… and we’ve also had people take a lot longer to get through the program. The strongly *recommended* pace is 6-9 weeks to finish the online modules, so you still have couple months of live coaching left once you finish and start dating. We find that if people procrastinate, they get stuck in perfectionism and will let their fear and resistance take over, start procrastinating, and lose momentum… so then, of course, we can’t get results that way, right?

So it’s up to you how fast you want to go, but following the recommended pace, you’d be doing one module per week, so you might invest between 5-40 minutes a day, depending on the day plus one hour per week for your coaching call… which of course, is much less than the time you would be devoting to your partner once you find him through this program… because part of the process is MAKING time and space for that love in your life, right?? 

By doing the work in this way, you will not only get done in the recommended time frame, you will also ce creating new habits that add up to powerful, positive, and permanent changes in your life. 

Remember, love is a choice, and an ACTION. Self love is the same. All the self love quotes in the world, and even “feelings” of self love, are meaningless unless couples with ACTS of self love. Keeping your commitments to yourself (just as you’ll expect your future partner to keep his commitments to you) is the most important act of self love. 

We’ve had lots of very busy women – including business owners and medical or legal professionals who are also single moms -- manage to do the program in these time frames, and we believe in you and your ability to do it, too. 

IF YOU JOINED ON OR AFTER 11/23/24, you have four months of live coaching access (group coaching calls and email coaching), and one year of access to the online components of the program.

"Online components" include:

• all lessons/modules
• all audios in the audio library
• all recorded coaching call replays in your course portal
• the online community (currently in the form of a Facebook group but subject to venue change in the future)
• all bonuses (in the course portal) that were originally included with your enrollment

At the end of your one year of access, you will be provided the means to download or save most of the content, so you could keep it forever if you want to save it on your own computer. If you don't wish to store the content on your own device, you will be given the option to extend access with the payment of a small monthly access fee. 

IF YOU JOINED *BEFORE *11/23/24, you have four months of live coaching access (group coaching calls and email coaching), plus grandfathered “lifetime” access to all the online components of this program (not including personal email coaching or live group coaching calls).

To be clear, “lifetime” access refers to the lifetime of the program (aka, until Natalie retires and takes down the website). You also have the ability to download, screenshot, or copy and paste most of the program content, so you could conceivably have the content forever for your own personal use, IF you choose to take the time to capture and save it.

No matter when you joined, your LIVE coaching access time (email coaching and the ability to ask questions and attend live group coaching calls), on the other hand, is limited to 4 months, starting from your enrollment date. If you would like continued live support beyond your coaching expiration date, we do have discounted live access continuity options.

You should be receiving an email about 2 weeks before your live coaching access time expires, with an opportunity to have a one on one "exit" call on Zoom, with Natalie, to discuss your next best steps, including extending your coaching access. If you have NOT received that email by the time your coaching access expires, please reach out to [email protected] before your time is up to discuss your options. 

You have THREE coaches in this program! Natalie Kita (the program's creator) is the lead coach in this program, and she is a coach for everyone. She hosts most of the coaching calls, and answers coaching questions via email. 

We also have an associate coach, Joanne Montague, who hosts some of the coaching calls, and answers questions in the Facebook group and in online comments under the lessons in the program portal. She is also a coach for everyone.

Our client success coach, Beth Bashinski Thompson, is specifically responsible for motivation, accountability, and helping you stay on pace with the modules. Beth does an initial zoom call with everyone to help you get started off on the right foot in the program. After that initial call, she is also the coach you will hear from weekly via email during at least the first 10 weeks you are in the program. You may reply to her emails for extra support and encouragement. She also occasionally hosts coaching calls. 

In addition to fulfilling different specific roles in the program, each coach has a different personality and coaching style, and you may resonate more with one than another, and that's okay. However, there is no such thing as "switching coaches" in this program, as each coach is here for everyone in the program, and each coach has specific coaching roles to fulfill. 

Natalie is the program creator, and therefore, some people prefer to direct more complex coaching questions to her. However, if Natalie had enough hours in the day to fulfill all the coaching roles in this program, we wouldn't have hired two additional coaches. Both Beth and Joanne are very knowledgeable about the program, and are successful program graduates themselves, both now married to their last loves.

If you have a question that you wish to be answered by  specific coach, all you need to do is send an email to [email protected] and put "for _________ (name of the coach)" in the subject line of your email. 

PS If you need help with technical aspects of the program, or with your account on the website, that's when you would reach out to Greg Hripto, YLLM CTO (and Natalie's husband). He can be reached by sending an email to [email protected] .

If your question is intended for a coaching call, please use the form, here. 

If you prefer your question be answered via email in between coaching calls, you may send a question via email to [email protected].

PLEASE NOTE: You may not use unlimited email coaching as a substitute for coaching calls. We expect some of your questions to be asked in the group calls. Otherwise, this becomes a private coaching program, and it gets a lot more expensive. (Private coaching programs start at $13,000.)

One more thing: 

Although we do coaching calls on Saturday mornings and Wednesday evenings, and our clients success coach does onboarding calls on some weekends and evening hours, and our enrollment coaches do calls at lots of different times, please remember that we also have families and lives outside of this program... This is already more weekend and evening hours than most people work. So, outside of those calls mentioned above, our official hours are 9-5, Monday-Friday. 

Please understand that we answer questions in order of both urgency and day/time received, and yours may not be first in line. So, although we do try to be very responsive and answer questions in a timely manner, it's possible that if you submit a question on Friday afternoon, it may not get answered until as late as Tuesday morning, just depending on how many other questions came in before yours, and whatever else the team might have going on. 

For this reason, among others, please do not ask questions via Facebook messenger. And please do not send in the same question via multiple channels. This just creates confusion for you and for us.

Questions for coaching calls are to be submitted using this form: 

https://lastlovemethod.wufoo.com/forms/p1tl0eoh0s6s9ic/

Questions for in between calls can be sent via email, to [email protected]

Tech/website questions should be sent to [email protected] 

Although we do coaching calls on Saturday mornings and Wednesday evenings, and our clients success coach does onboarding calls on some weekends and evening hours, and our enrollment coaches do calls at lots of different times, please remember that we also have families and lives outside of this program... This is already more weekend and evening hours than most people work. So, outside of those calls mentioned above, our official hours are 9-5, Monday-Friday. 

Please understand that we answer questions in order of both urgency and day/time received, and yours may not be first in line. So, although we do try to be very responsive and answer questions in a timely manner, it's possible that if you submit a question on Friday afternoon, it may not get answered until as late as Tuesday morning, just depending on what else we have going on. 

For this reason, among others, please do not ask questions via Facebook messenger.

Questions for coaching calls are to be submitted using this form: 

https://lastlovemethod.wufoo.com/forms/p1tl0eoh0s6s9ic/

Questions for in between calls can be sent via email, to [email protected]

Private email coaching is unlimited for 4 months starting with your enrollment date. This benefit of your membership happens by sending questions via email to [email protected]

Once you’ve asked a question, Natalie or an associate coach may provide a written answer by replying to your email… Or, they may create a video answer for you and send it in the email reply… If a coach feels that your question is too complex for either one of these options, or if we feel others in the program would greatly benefit from the discussion, you'll be advised that we would like to answer your question on a coaching call. (We can keep the question anonymous if you request, so your name will not be mentioned in the discussion). Even if you can’t make it to the live call, you can watch the answer (and any subsequent relevant discussion) on the recorded call replay. 

You may ask questions related to:

• your past, present or future love life
• getting help understanding or completing a specific assignment in the program
• reviewing your online dating profile and photos
• reviewing a conversation you are having/have had with a romantic prospect
• working through feelings and thoughts that are coming up for you as you do this work

PLEASE NOTE: You may not use unlimited email coaching as a substitute for coaching calls. We expect some of your questions to be asked in the group calls. Otherwise, this becomes a private coaching program, and it gets a lot more expensive. 

In addition, PRIVATE COACHING CALLS ARE NOT INCLUDED IN THIS PROGRAM. NATALIE’S PRIVATE COACHING PROGRAMS START AT $13,000, and individual private calls for non-members are $1000/hr. However, if you’d like to have an occasional private call with Natalie, you can add that on, at member rates, which are $450/hr, while your coaching time is in effect, or $600/hr for program alumni whose coaching time is expired. Alternatively, you can book time with Associate Coach Joanne for $150/hr for active coaching members or $300/hr for alumni. Email [email protected] for more information.

The scope of the coaching included in this program is related to your past, present, and future love life. Natalie is not able to offer professional coaching or coaching related to platonic friendships, family relationships, career, finances, etc., as part of this program. If you’d like help with those areas of your life, you can book a private coaching call at an additional cost. 

There are anywhere from 12-22 calls on the schedule in any given month, so you can pick the ones that best fit your schedule. You may attend 4 coaching calls per month, live. Those calls can happen at a rate of one call per week, or you can skip 3 weeks and attend 4 calls in one week, or anything in between. You may also watch as many call recordings on replay as you wish, once the recordings are posted in your course portal.

As vacations are commonplace, and this program can be very mobile due to its available-on-demand, online nature, and flexible zoom coaching call schedule, vacations/travel do not affect your live coaching access time in any way. 

In most cases, a trained associate coach will host calls in Natalie’s absence. Some regularly-scheduled calls, however, may be skipped or rescheduled. Even if this happens, there are still a minimum of anywhere from 12-22 calls on the schedule in any given month, so you can pick the ones that best fit your schedule.

You may request*** that your program be put on a brief hold , ONLY for the following reasons:

• death in the immediate family* (mother, father, sister, brother ONLY) *will grant one-time 2 week hold for this
• serious personalhealth crisis (YOURS, not a family member's) ** (i.e., cancer, stroke, critical injury - NOT cold/flu/covid/strep, etc.) **will grant up to 2 months hold, depending on severity of illness/injury

Please do not request a hold for any reason other than the above, exactly as it's spelled out. The truth is that every woman in this program has a busy life, crazy work schedule, travels, goes to school, has pets/kids/grandkids, has an ex that's making her life difficult, is dealing with stress, etc. At this point in our lives, most of us also have parents with failing health, as well. Life happens, and we still keep all our other commitments. This program is no different.

If we grant holds for everyone, then the time frame becomes meaningless, motivation is lost, and we are unable to sustain a business and keep track of everyone's differing timetable. 

If the ability to request a hold is abused, we will return to not allowing holds for any reason.

***You must reach out to Natalie to request a hold, and the decision to grant the hold is made solely at her discretion. Hold periods that are granted, are NOT retroactive. Please note that, during your “hold” period, you may still access the online components of the program, but you may not attend LIVE coaching calls. (The clock starts again once you come on a coaching call live.)

PLEASE NOTE: Putting your live coaching access time on hold does not change your payment schedule. Once a payment agreement is entered into our system, it is all handled in an automated way by a third-party payment processor, and we have no control over changing payment terms. 

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To learn the answer to this question, please click here to watch this short video: https://www.mylast.love/online-audio-calendar

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The recommended pace to complete the online modules is about one module per week, although Modules 1 and 9 can probably be completed much quicker, so that would mean taking about 8 weeks to complete all 10 modules. Each module contains approximately 8 lessons, so this is a pace of about one lesson per day, plus doubling up on lessons on a Saturday or Sunday. Each lesson is only 5-15 minutes long, and for the 30% of lessons that have homework, allot an extra 20 minutes… This means that, on average, you are devoting approximately 20 minutes per day to lessons… and an extra 20 minutes on a Saturday or Sunday. 

The reason we recommend this pace is two-fold:

1. so you’ll still have 2 months of coaching once you’ve finished the modules and started dating
2. so you have enough time with each set of audios for them to work their magic in your subconscious

For these reasons, we recommend staying as close to the recommended pace as possible (not too much faster or too much slower, although we have had some ambitious and dedicated students who've completed all the modules in 3-4 weeks). 

If you have received an email stating (or implying) that you should be farther along in the program than you actually are, rest assured that these emails are automated nudges based on the recommended (not required) program pace. There is no need to report back or ask for forgiveness or an extension. The emails and recommended pace are for your benefit, not ours.

So if you're a little behind where you think you “should” be, simply start from wherever you left off. 

And keep in mind the reason for the recommended pace: We recommend NOT dating until you have completed all 10 modules, and we want you to still have a couple months of live coaching time left after you've begin dating... So it is always in your best interest to complete the online modules within the first 8-9 weeks of joining the program.

If you have time for only one — the live coaching OR the modules/lessons, ALWAYS choose the lessons. The coaching calls help you repair holes… while the lessons help you learn how to avoid ripping holes in the first place. 

That said, here’s one thing that should help you breathe easier: This program will not self-destruct or disappear if you don’t complete it in the recommended time frame. If you joined prior to 11/23/24, you have grandfathered “lifetime” access (meaning, the lifetime of the program, or until Natalie retires and takes the website down) to all the online components of this program (lessons/modules, audios, recorded call replays, bonuses, and Facebook group). If you joined on or after 11/23/24, you have one full year of access to the same online components listed above. You also have the ability to download, screenshot, and copy-paste almost all of this content for your own personal use, so you could conceivably have “forever” access. 

The only part of this program that expires  4 months from the date you joined is the LIVE coaching component (live group zoom calls and private email coaching). In addition, if you would like continued live support beyond your coaching expiration date, we do have discounted live access continuity options. Please reach out to [email protected] before your time is up to discuss your options. 

Now, as for how to "catch up," there is no one way, but instead, multiple options:

1) You could do two lessons per day, every day. 

2) You could stick with one lesson a day, but devote extra time on Saturday and/or Sunday to knock out an extra 3-5 lessons.

3) You could devote one day a week to doing an entire module, PLUS one lesson every other day of the week.

4) Any combination of the above. 

If you know that you are close to the end of your coaching time, and you know that will won't be willing or able to invest in extended coaching... then my advice would be to make sure you've done the first 4 lessons in Module 5, then skip ahead to Module 10 and do the first four lessons there. Create your dating profile and gather/take your profile photos and submit them for review on a coaching call. THEN, go back and pick up where you left off in the program, knowing that you at least got your dating profile done and ready to go when you finish the modules. 

It's time to get practice in two very essential life skills:

1. Letting go of perfectionism. Perfectionism is really just a form of avoidance, and an excuse for giving in to fear. There is no "right" in this work. There is only truth. You don't need to do this "perfectly" for it to work. 
2. Moving past resistance. Wanting to backtrack is just a knee-jerk subconscious reaction to the fear of change. Remember -- your subconscious feels safer with what is familiar, even when the familiar is actually not what's best for you. If you don't move forward, nothing will change. And if you back-track, you can tell yourself you still intend to change, but you can at least delay it a little while longer. 

Here's why we don't want you to backtrack:

You have lifetime access to the modules... but you only have 4 months of live coaching access... so we want you moving through the modules at a decent pace, so you'll still have live coaching time left when you've finished and are back out in the world, dating. 

Yes, we want you to go through ALL of the modules, in order. And yes, we want you to give it your best effort. But this work is big, and it's deep. Honestly, this work should be happening throughout your entire life. Expecting to understand it and get it all "perfect" at any time is unrealistic. 

You can always go back and do the entire course again, or revisit specific modules, after you're completed the program and are dating. In fact, we've had many clients repeat the entire course after they found their last love, just to understand themselves on a deeper level. 

In the meantime, keep moving forward, never backward. 

1. Treat this program as you would if you were taking a college course, with deadlines. Take a module a week. Give extra time when you can.
2. Don't expect it all to feel good. It WILL start to feel better from Module 5 on -- that's where it gets fun and everything starts to fall in place and make sense. But Modules 2-4 are going to be uncomfortable and challenging, so choose to embrace that -- The obstacle IS the way.
3. Instead of thinking you have to feel a certain way to take action, decide that taking action IS what's going to change how you feel.
4. Remember that trust in necessary for growth and success. Self-trust, and trust in the process.
5. Focus ONLY on the step you are on. Don’t worry about what comes next. THAT is how we get overwhelmed. Just. This. Step. 
6. Listen to the Energy Clearing Meditation (in the Quickies section of the audio library), and use the symptom tree (module 1, lesson 1) OR reach out to me to get some more audio recommendations based on your specific current circumstances/feelings.
7. Decide right now that done is better than perfect, and don't let perfect be the enemy of good. Remember that you can always go back and revisit/refine things later, if you desire, once you have finished all the modules. The less you can THINK, push, and edit, the better. Just allow, feel, and let flow and intuition guide you.
8. Listen to The Inertia Cure (in the hypnosis section of your audio library).
9. Look for the things you can be grateful for, in everything. "Breathing Gratitude" is a great mojo moment to use.
10. Do NOT go back and repeat old modules just because you took a little time away from the program. Please don't do that. That is a big mistake that some people make, and it's just a way of procrastinating, staying stuck, and letting your resistance win. You especially don't want to stay stuck in excavation mode (modules 2-4). Sometimes, those early modules are what stirs up all the uncomfortable feelings, and the last thing you want to do is stop there. Trust the process and keep moving forward. (When you're walking through hell, keep walking -- the only way out is through!) If I feel you need to revisit certain lessons, I will tell you which specific ones are best for you. (Of course, you have to let me know what you’re dealing with, specifically, for me to give you the best coaching.) **Special notes about Module 4: 1-DO NOT try to clean out your basement, garage, attic, storage unit, etc., before moving on to the next module. Just your bedroom and the other room you spend the most time in will do. You can make a plan to do the rest after you finish the program. Don't use this piece as an excuse to stop and stay stuck. 2-If you are a widow, you do not need to toss things in the trash... just move them to a place that is out of your every day sight, and out of your bedroom.
11. Not to be all Nike and cliche about this, but just do it. Fake it til you make it. Be it until you see it. Remember that any time a negative or disempowering thought comes into your awareness, you always have the power to choose the NEXT thought. And please, accept that transformation takes time, practice, and repetition. But don't continue to re-affirm the negative ones over and over again. We speak things into being all the time. Language is soooooo soooo powerful.
12. Think of the time you spend working in this program as the time you will soon be devoting to your new/last love. Would you give him an hour each night (7 hours per week)…whether that be physically together, talking on the phone and or texting? Of course you would. So give that much time to YOU, now, by doing the work in this program. You invested in this already — time, energy, emotion, effort, and money. Don't let that investment go to waste.
13. Return to this list any time you start feeling resistance again. Everyone goes through tough times at some point while going through this program. We lose friends, parents, pets, jobs, etc. Please note that I'm not trying to minimize anyone’s pain -- you feel it, therefore, it is valid. However, what happens in our lives, and what we feel about those things, and how we respond to those things and those feelings, are three separate things. It's in the latter two where resistance can be either succumbed to, or overcome.
14. Remember that this program’s purpose is not ONLY to help you manifest your last love. It is a total life transformation. It is a chance to learn, grow, and gain tools you can use to manage yourself better, mentally, emotionally, and energetically… and to thereby ease a lot of the exact same feelings that are causing you to feel stuck right now.
15. Remind yourself that, to a certain degree, being "overwhelmed" is necessary... We are trying to overwrite patterns that we have established over 4, 50, or even 60+ years. We are not just going to say a few affirmations on day 1 and be "fixed." We are over-writing literally decades of limiting beliefs, fears, and negative imprints on our brains. We need to immerse ourselves in the new things if we want to create those new brain connections.
16. If you feel like the problem is “not enough time,” please go see the other FAQ above, entitled, “How can I fit this into my busy schedule?”
17. If all else fails, remember that you invested a lot of time, money, and energy into this already, that you REALLY want this or you wouldn’t have done that, and that you only get 5 months of live coaching, and you are not allowed to date before you have finished the modules. You DO want to still have live coaching time left once you start dating, right??? (Sometimes fear of losing something can be a good motivator, although perhaps not the most high-vibe one... but in this I feel like case the end justifies the means.)

All parts of this program are important. That said, in a given week, if you have time for only one — the live coaching OR the modules/lessons, ALWAYS choose the lessons. The coaching calls help you repair holes… while the lessons help you learn how to avoid ripping holes in the first place. 

As for the audios, there's no excuse not to do them, because some of the audios less than 2 minutes, and most of your audios don’t have to add any extra time to your day. For example:

• You could listen to one of your “quickie” audios while brushing your teeth and getting dressed in the morning (no extra time!)

• You could listen to your 90-second mojo moments during bathroom breaks (no extra time!)

• And you could put your hypnosis (or longer meditation) on while you drift off to sleep at night. (no extra time!)

By connecting the audio sessions to things you’re already doing, you make this mental/emotional/energetic “hygiene” a normal part of your life, instead of stressing over “fitting it all in.”

To be frank, this is such a tough question to answer… because I’m aware there’s no way to do it without ruffling some feathers.

I have run into this question many times as a coach, in response to certain advice I give. The most common pieces of advice that people resist, include (but are not limited to):

1. Cutting off friendships/communication with exes
2. Getting rid of pictures/other items with/from exes
3. Avoiding “friends with benefits” relationships or "situationships"
4. Getting a profile up and doing online dating
5. Using the profile templates we provide
6. Using the dating sites we recommend
7. NOT dating at all until finishing the modules
8. Avoiding sex until you are in an exclusive, committed relationship

Here are the important points I want to make about this:

1. You got the results you currently have by doing things the way you’re doing them now. To get different results, you will need to do things differently.
2. None of my suggestions are arbitrary. They all have sound, proven reasons behind them.
3. Everyone thinks their specific situation is the exception, but if it were, then it would be the rule, not the exception.
4. The people who succeed in this program, are the ones who follow the coaching.
5. You invested a lot to be here. It only makes sense to go all in and get what you paid for. You didn’t pay me to say “keep doing what you’re doing, and everything will work out fine.”

Now, the truth is, at the end of the day, you are a grown adult. You don’t have to do anything I advise. Feel free to take anything (or everything) I say with a grain of salt.

That said, what I won’t do is give you “permission.” If you want to do things your own way, you don’t need my permission. But if you do ask me, I’m going to be honest with you. And that means, I’m going to reiterate all the reasons my advice is to do things a certain way. Said with all the compassion in the world, I won’t “change my answer” because you ask me several different times in several different ways, or because you believe your situation is  different from everyone else’s.

As a coach, it is my job to be honest — to tell you what I believe you need to hear, not what you want to hear. That’s what your friends are for — not your coach. (Although., honestly, if we were friends, I would still not be the kind of friend who only tells you what you want to hear. Ask any of my friends and they’ll tell you that’s true.)

I would be doing you a disservice to “give permission” for things I truly believe are detrimental to your goal of finding your last, greatest love and building a beautiful life with him.

It is your life, not mine. Yes, you know yourself better than I do…. and yet, we all have blind spots in our own lives when we can clearly see things going on in the lives of others. That’s why people hire coaches in the first place.

But again, you’re an adult, with free will, and you are the one who lives with your choices. I very much want to help you, and I do that the best way I know how. But YOU are the one responsible for making your choices and living with the results. Just think about what I’ve said here, that’s all I can ask.

The truth is that only about 10% of people who enroll in any sort of online learning program, ever complete the program. We are proud to have a much higher finish rate than most programs, but even so, it’s only about 50%. So how do you get results? Here’s how, in order of importance:

1. Be in the 50% who actually finish the program
2. Make yourself and your goals a priority. 
3. Follow the recommended program pace of about 1-2 modules per week (after the first module, which is short and easy, and therefore should only take a day or two). 1-2 modules per week = about 1-2 lessons per day.
4. Show up to 4 coaching calls per month, and ask questions. (If you can’t make it live to that many, do 2 live calls and 2 replays per month.)
5. Actually follow the coaching you receive, even (especially) if it feels uncomfortable. If your comfort zone could get you where you want to go, you’d already be there. 
6. Reach out for help when you need it. 
7. Focus only on the step you’re on. Trying to see the entire path ahead will only result in more resistance and overwhelm. 
8. Don't beat up on yourself for not doing it perfectly. Let go of perfectionism.
9. Be patient (impatience is scarcity mindset!), keep the faith, and use the tools in this program to stay focused on what you are manifesting, and on how far you've come, NOT on what you don't have, yet.
10. Above all else, KEEP GOING. The people who succeed are those who choose a learner's perspective and don't let disappointments stop them from moving forward with a great attitude and an empowered perspective. 

This program is laid out in a specific order, for a specific reason. Most people, therefore, find it pretty easy to navigate. That said, if you’re having trouble finding something, there are four things we recommend doing, in order:

1. Check Module 1, Lesson 1 of your main program. The entire lesson is nothing but a list of links to just about anything you could possibly be looking for in the program. Always check there first. Scroll through the links slowly and carefully to find what you want. 
2. Use the “search” feature at the top right of any page (on your computer) or by clicking on the 3 stacked horizontal lines then the word “search” (on your phone). Then, simply type in a few words about what you’re looking for, and look through the results that come up. NOTE: If you’re looking for a coaching call replay, be sure first that you’re in the coaching call replay program inside your course portal (under the “My Stuff” tab). If you’re looking for a lesson or audio session, make sure you are under your main program. 
3. Watch the video in Module 1, Lesson 2. That video will guide you visually through the entire course portal, and even the Facebook group. NOTE: You’ll see it better on a computer… but if you don’t have access to a computer, the last half of the video shows phone screenshots to help with navigation on your phone. 
4. Send an email to [email protected] and ask your question in specific terms with as much context as possible so we can help you. (Please use this step only if the first three steps haven’t yielded the results you need.)

The good news: This program will not self-destruct or disappear if you don’t complete it in the recommended time frame. You have “lifetime” access (meaning, the lifetime of the program, or until Natalie retires and takes the website down). You also have the ability to download, screenshot, and copy-paste almost all of this content for your own personal use, so you could conceivably have “forever” access. 

The bad news: if you don’t finish in the recommended time-frame, your live coaching time (which is the only part of this program that is limited-time) will run out, and you won’t have access to personal help from Natalie (and any associate coaches) as you practice the new skills you are learning, out in the dating world. 

If you need, or would like, continued live support beyond your coaching expiration date, we do have discounted live access continuity options. Please reach out to [email protected] before your time is up to discuss your options. 

Take action. Put up at least one dating profile and follow the guidelines for your proactive search for your last love. Get out there in the world and meet people. Continue using the audios and other daily practices as a much-needed form of mental emotional/energetic “hygiene.” Stay active and positive in the Facebook group, and continue coming to coaching calls until your coaching time is up (and beyond that, if you choose to enroll in the continuity program for continued support).

If you joined the program after June 1, 2023, you shouldn’t need to print anything, as you have a printed workbook that contains all the worksheets. However, if you joined before June 1, 2023, a printed workbook was not included in your program. You have a few options in this case:

Option 1: Print each download as it comes up in the lessons of the program, on your home or office printer.

Option 2: Send all the files to your local Staples, OfficeMax, or UPS Store for printing. This option will end up costing you about $75.

Option 3: Download the pdfs, view them on your device, and write down everything in the worksheets down by hand. This option is more labor-intensive, and may also be confusing.

Option 4: Use a friend’s computer/printer to print everything. This option may be inconvenient for you, and annoying to your friend. 

Option 5: Order a workbook from us, by clicking the link, here. (It's only $35, which is cheaper and/or easier than all the other options.)

If you joined the program after June 1, 2023, you shouldn’t need a printer, as you have a printed workbook. If you joined before June 1, 2023, a printed workbook was not included in your program. You have a few options in this case:

Option 1: Send all the files to your local Staples, OfficeMax, or UPS Store for printing. This option will end up costing you about $75.

Option 2: Download the pdfs, view them on your device, and write down everything in the worksheets down by hand. This option is more labor-intensive, and may also be confusing.

Option 3: Use a friend’s computer/printer to print everything. This option may be inconvenient for you, and annoying to your friend. 

Option 4: Order a workbook from us, by clicking the link, here. (It's only $35, which is cheaper and/or easier than the other options.)

Order a workbook from us, by clicking the link, here. (It's only $35, which is A LOT cheaper than sending all the files to OfficeMax or Staples for printing, and may be just as cheap as printing all the worksheets and checklists at home, considering the cost of ink and paper for so many pages.)

Your live coaching access time expires 4 months from your date of purchase. 

If you don't remember when your date of purchase was, you can find it on the course portal, by following these steps:

1) Got to the main program portal at www.mylast.love and log in to your account (preferably on a computer if you can, as opposed to a phone, just because it's easier to find things that way).

2) Click on the little icon that looks like a person (or might be a small picture of YOU). It might also say "Account."

3) Click on "Settings" in the drop down menu. 

4) Choose the "Purchase History" tab. Your purchase history will show your purchase date. That is the date you enrolled. Your live coaching expiration date is 4 months after the purchase date. 

If you would like continued live support beyond your coaching expiration date, we do have discounted live access continuity options.

You should be receiving an email about 2 weeks before your live coaching access time expires, with an opportunity to have a one on one "exit" call on Zoom, with Natalie, to discuss your next best steps, including extending your coaching access. If you have NOT received that email by the time your coaching access expires, please reach out to [email protected] before your time is up to discuss your options. 

You can send your dating profile and photos by using the form, here. 

PLEASE NOTE: THERE ARE DETAILED INSTRUCTIONS IN THE FORM FOR HOW TO SUBMIT PROFILES AND PHOTOS. PLEASE READ AND FOLLOW THEM.

You can also find the form at any time in the Module 1 Lesson 1 links list, or by clicking on the cover photo in the Facebook group (The Super Attractors Inner Circle), then expanding the caption and scrolling down. 

The question form is preferred for all pre-call submissions, as opposed to an email. (However, if you need your question answered via email, outside of a scheduled coaching call, then you can send your question to [email protected] )

That said, here are the important steps to follow to submit your dating profile and photos for review:

FIRST Steps:

1 - Use one of our templates. PLEASE DO NOT SEND ANY PROFILE THAT YOU WROTE WITHOUT USING ONE OF OUR PROVIDED TEMPLATES.

2 - Check your end result against the “10 elements of an effective dating profile” list in the beginning of Module 10, Lesson3 (especially important if you have mixed and matched templates)

3 - Check your old photos AND take some new photos, following the guidelines in Module 10, Lesson 4 (watch the video AND read the text, TWICE).

If your old photos don’t meet the guidelines, please take some new ones before submitting for review, as we can only do ONE profile and photo review per person.

NEXT Steps:

4 - Use the question submission form to submit your profile and photos.

5 - For the profile itself, you can copy and paste the text directly into the designated spot on the question form. (If you go over the character limit, your profile is too long. I have been VERY generous with the character limit there, so cut it down.)

Alternatively, you can send me a link to a google document (assuming you have set sharing permissions to “anyone with link” and “editor”)

Or, if you can’t do either of those, you may attach a Word doc. PLEASE DO NOT SEND ME A SCREENSHOT OF YOUR EXISTING PROFILE FROM A DATING SITE.

If you want us to review your profile, you MUST use one of our templates to write out a profile bio in full and save it in that full, continuous format for our review. We cannot accommodate all the different formats of every different dating site. Once we have reviewed/edited your profile, THEN, you may “break it up” into sections to paste into the dating site sections, as needed.

6 - For the photos, you can send me a link to a google folder or dropbox folder. Or, you can attach each photo individually to the questions form, using the “attach” link on the form.

PLEASE NOTE: When filling out the question form, DO NOT use emojis, don’t go over the character limits for each field, and make sure you scroll down and click “Submit” AND that you are sent to a confirmation page after submitting.

If for some reason, you have a lot of trouble with the question form, you can send everything in an email to [email protected]. But in that case, you will not be able to attach all photos to one email, you’ll have to send several.

To learn the answer to this question, please click here to watch this short video: https://www.mylast.love/worse-before-better-phase

To learn the answer to this question, please click here to watch this short video: https://www.mylast.love/8step-process-for-feelings

As for module four, and the physical decluttering process, please remember that I don’t want you to declutter your entire home in order to be able to move on. All you really need to do to be able to move on from that module is create some space in your master bedroom… Meaning, clean out a drawer and a little sliver of closet space, and maybe a drawer in a nightstand on the other side of the bed from where you sleep. Then, of course, get rid of anything that contains negative energy reminds you of an ex, etc. Then you can just make a plan to Declutter the rest, maybe once a month you spend half a Saturday decluttering other spaces in your home, one space at a time, but move on, once you’ve made the plan. Don’t try to complete the entire thing before moving on.

You can direct the “I’m sorry” part and the “I love you” part to him as a little baby, before whatever turned him into what he became… which is not the kind of “I’m sorry” where you’re admitting guilt, but the kind where you’re sorry for that innocent child, knowing what he became… Depending on your spiritual beliefs, alternatively, you could also try directing those words to the "divine spark," or "spirit of God" that lives deep inside the person who wronged you. 

If you still can’t get there, even thinking of it that way… Then you can address the "I’m sorry" and "I love you" part to the old version of yourself that that endured what your ex put you through.

In addition, there is a "Hard Forgiveness Made Easier" audio that may help immensely with this process. You can find that audio by clicking here.

There are several ways to get to the audio library in this program. Pick the one that works best for your purposes:

1. Like most things you need to find in this program, the Audio Library can be accessed from the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1. This is best if you’re looking for a specific audio, or just want to browse the audios and pick one that speaks to you. 
2. In addition, you can access your assigned module-specific audios from the audio program calendar (also linked in the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1
3. You can click on the links in the “Wrap Up” lesson in each module, to take you directly to a specific audio mentioned in that lesson. (Links are pink and underlined) 
4. You can click right here for the audio library, and navigate to the audio of your choice by scrolling through the library.

The appropriate audios will be prescribed to you in  the Wrap-Up lesson at the end of each Module. However, the best place to go to find out what audios you should be listening to, when, and how often you should listen, is the program audio calendar, which is linked in the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1. 

Or you can click right here for the program audio calendar.

I have good news for you — falling asleep during the audios can actually be a good thing! Your subconscious mind is ALWAYS listening, even when you’re sleeping. And when we sleep, our conscious mind takes a break from “arguing” with the positive suggestions you are being provided with in the audios… so the new, upgraded beliefs can go deeper into your brain. In fact, sleep is basically the deepest form of hypnosis there is!

Plus, if you are able to catch some Zzzzs AND re-train your brain at the same time, that is a win-win because you’re doing double duty and saving time in your busy schedule.

You’re in luck: This is exactly why I created The Symptom Tree! But where is the symptom tree, you ask? It is all the way at the bottom of the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1 of your main program. 

Look for your “symptoms” or current situation/problem on the tree, and pick one of the audios listed underneath that symptom/situation. 

There is a key, right above the symptom tree, that explains what section of the audio library you can find certain audios in. It goes by the initials of the sections, as follows: 

H=Hypnosis

M=Meditations

MM=Mojo Moments

MSC=Miscellaneous

Q=Quickies and mini-meditations

If you don’t see what you’re looking for under the section it’s listed under, look for the “See More” link, and/or the “next” arrows. 

PS As a reminder, The Symptom Tree is located at the bottom of the page in the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1.

The best time of day to listen to the audios IS.... whatever time you will actually listen to them! 

In terms of "finding time" to listen, I recommend you think of it in terms of MAKING time for something that you have DECIDED is a priority for you.

But here's the even better news: Some of these audios less than 2 minutes, and most of your audios don’t have to add any extra time to your day. For example:

• You could listen to one of your “quickie” audios while brushing your teeth and getting dressed in the morning (no extra time!)

• You could listen to your 90-second mojo moments during bathroom breaks (no extra time!)

• And you could put your hypnosis (or longer meditation) on while you drift off to sleep at night. (no extra time!)

By connecting the audio sessions to things you’re already doing, you make this mental/emotional/energetic “hygiene” a normal part of your life, instead of stressing over “fitting it all in.”

Being hypnotized is NOT what you see in old black and white movies, or in Las Vegas stage shows. In fact, a lot of people THINK they “can’t be hypnotized,” because they have misunderstand what hypnosis really is, and because they have in their minds that hypnosis is “supposed” to FEEL a certain way… or because they have bought into prejudices against hypnosis (based on a misunderstanding of what it really is)… But hypnosis is actually a normal, natural mental process and state of the mind, and it feels different to different people. In fact, you are probably already going into a state of hypnosis several times a day without even realizing it. Have you ever driven to work, or back home again, and arrived with no real recollection of the drive itself? That's hypnosis! So contrary to popular belief, everybody can be hypnotized.

Even though hypnotists often use the word “trance,” all hypnosis is, is a deeply relaxed state of mind and body. Hypnosis is very effective for our clients. It is part of how this program helps women break their subconscious self sabotaging patterns. In fact, it is one of the things our most successful students credit most for the way their lives transform in our program. 

That said–and here’s what’s really important–our program is made up of lessons, exercises, coaching, and audio recordings. The audio recordings make up only about 20% of this program… And only about 20% of those audio recordings are hypnosis sessions… And here’s the best part – Even if you only listen to those hypnosis audios thinking of them only as “guided deep meditations,” which is all hypnosis really is… they will still work to change your brain. What I’m saying is, even if you don’t feel “hypnotized,” that’s okay. They will still reprogram your mind, just like the other audios, which are in fact, mostly guided meditations. 

And if you’re thinking, “I can’t meditate, either”... that’s 100% fine. This is not traditional “make your mind blank” meditation… If your mind wanders to a million things, if you fall asleep, if you lose focus on the words entirely, that doesn’t matter. It is your conscious mind that is doing the wandering, while your subconscious absorbs what is being said… which is really just another form of hypnosis.

Your subconscious mind recognizes and picks up on things your conscious mind cannot. Not every word of the audio sessions is even meant to be consciously heard and understood. In fact, a few of the sessions has no conscious-level vocals at all, but the vocals are embedded "underneath" the music and sounds to create an opportunity for subliminal influence. (Don't worry, there's nothing being said below the conscious threshold that isn't already said in some of our conscious listening audios.)

While it is rare that someone has a negative reaction to one of our audio sessions, it is not completely unheard of.

My best advice is to:

1) Completely let go of any expectation of what meditation or hypnosis is "supposed to" feel like. Like everything else, it can feel completely different from one person to another... and that's perfectly ok, and it can can still be effective, regardless. For some people, it feels like completely falling asleep. Some people just feel mildly relaxed. Some people consciously notice no difference at all... And occasionally, in some situations, rare people might experience a feeling of agitation and anxiety. Whatever your personal response is, is completely normal. It's when you start JUDGING your response and resisting the process, that you are more likely to experience issues. Let go of any expectation, and just listen as a casual, objective, unattached OBSERVER. 

2) When you notice your mind wandering, do just that — NOTICE it only — no judgment, no trying to analyze WHY your mind is wandering, not beating yourself up, not interpretation of what it means that it wandered... just passive observation, followed by redirecting your mind to listen to the recording (if it's a meditation) or even just letting it continue to wander (if it's hypnosis and if that's more comfortable for you). Yes, you may need to do this a lot, or a few times, and that's ok, too.

3) If you experience discomfort in any part of your body while listening, breathe all the way into that spot, sending love and light and warmth there, and ask it to relax and release.

4) Decide and affirm before listening to any audio, that you are committing yourself to TRUSTING that this is all for your highest good, and to allow your whole being to relax and let go.

5) If you tend to have a really hard time trusting, try listening to an audio wide awake and sitting up straight (maybe even while doing something active with your body, like walking somewhere safe) while listening, for the first time…. so that your brain can hear that there’s nothing harmful and objectionable and allow you to relax and let go the next time.

6) Do the specific audio two more times, fairly close together, with an open mind. Things should get better with repetition, especially if you follow the other bits of advice above.

7) If you have tried all of the above, and still find yourself having trouble with a particular audio, it may be time to do some conscious and intentional work around the topic at hand... Additionally, you can replace that audio with a similar audio that doesn't have the adverse effect. (Send an email to [email protected] to ask what might be a good substitution for you.)

Please follow the audio calendar as closely as possible, no matter what pace you are going through the modules. It is best to treat the audio calendar and modules as separate, because it is important that you get the prescribed amount of repetition of the audios, as that is how the subconscious develops new, more empowering beliefs -- through repetition. 

We cannot answer this question. Some people find their last love very quickly, within weeks of completing the program modules. Others take a lot longer, and need more real-life practice using the tools. Comparing yourself to those who've manifested faster is NOT productive. Instead, choose to see others' successes as inspirations and illustrations of what is possible and on its way to you. 

Maybe your person isn't ready yet, maybe you aren't quite ready yet. Maybe the universe has one or both of you in a "holding pattern" until the right time. 

Just remember, the time it takes is going to pass, no matter what. It is your choice to either spend that time happy and fulfilled and positively focused on what you are manifesting and what you are learning along the way... or negatively focused on what you don't have, yet. (Guess which option will help you manifest faster?) ;) 

The scope of the coaching included in this program is related to your past, present, and future love life, only. Natalie is not able to offer professional coaching or coaching related to platonic friendships, family relationships, finances, career, etc., as part of this program. If you’d like help with those areas of your life, you can book a private coaching call at an additional cost. Inquire about private coaching via email: [email protected]

First, we LOVE that you have gotten enough value out of this program to want to share with your friends! But exactly HOW do you refer a friend?

Well, it's best if your friend goes through the exact same journey to get her, as you did. She will start by watching the free webinar, here: https://webinar.lastlovemethod.com/s/ScJDm0?utm_source=SAIC&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=facebook

At the end of the webinar, there is a link to apply for a free call, just as you did, with one of our enrollment coaches. At the end of the call, if our enrollment coach feels we are a good fit to help her, she will be offered a spot in the program. 

In full transparency, a call is not guaranteed when someone applies, and a spot is not guaranteed just because someone gets a call. But, please tell your friend to mention your name on her application, and we will give her special consideration as a valued client referral. 

Second, we’d much rather help increase YOUR financial abundance than Mark Zuckerberg’s! So, if you refer a friend who enrolls in the main (full coaching) program, you will be eligible for a $500 cash referral bonus. To get this bonus, you must tell us your friend’s name before she has her enrollment call, and she must mention your name in her call application. Referral bonuses are given ONLY when your referral enrolls in our main signature full coaching program, Your Last Love Method.

 We do not offer a guarantee, for many reasons:

• If we offered a guarantee, that actually de-incentivizes people from doing the work for real. 
• We put in the work and provide the coaching and tools on our end, but we have no way of knowing what you're actually doing on your end. 
• Everyone has free will, their own issues to work through, their own circumstances, and their own time table is different for finding love. Anyone who tells you they can guarantee you will find love in a specific time frame, is full of it. 

What I CAN guarantee you right now, is this: 

1. First, we​ ​can​ ​guarantee​ ​that​ ​we​ ​will​ ​give​ ​you​ ​everything​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​be​ ​successful,​ ​but​ ​what​ we​ ​can’t guarantee​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you​ ​will​ ​do​ ​the​ ​work.​ ​Are​ ​you​ ​the​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​person​ ​that​ ​asks​ ​for​ ​help​ ​when you​ ​get​ ​stuck​ ​or​ ​do​ ​you​ ​go​ ​and​ ​hide​ ​and​ ​not​ ​show​ ​up?​ ​Ok,​ ​then​ ​that’s​ ​why​ ​we​ ​are​ ​here​ ​to guide​ ​you​ ​so​ ​you​ ​get​ ​what​ ​you​ ​need​ ​when​ ​you​ ​need​ ​it.​ ​Make​ ​sense? 
2. The second guarantee is that, you are NOT guaranteed any number of tomorrows, but you will also never be as young as you are today, therefore, NOW is definitely the only time that makes sense to do this…
3. And the final guarantee… is that, if you don’t change something BIG about your approach to love, you will stay exactly where you are now, doing all the things you've been doing, and getting the same results you've been getting, which I know is not what you want.

The cold, hard reality is that only about 10% of people who enroll in any sort of online learning program, ever complete the program. We are proud to have a much higher finish rate than most programs, but even so, it’s only about 50%. So how do you get results? Here’s how, in order of importance:

1. Be in the 60% who actually finish the program
2. Make yourself and your goals a priority. 
3. Follow the recommended program pace of about 1-2 modules per week (after the first module, which is short and easy, and therefore should only take a day or two). 1-2 modules per week = about 1-2 lessons per day.
4. Show up to 4 coaching calls per month, and ask questions. (If you can’t make it live to that many, do 2 live calls and 2 replays per month.)
5. Actually follow the coaching you receive, even (especially) if it feels uncomfortable. If your comfort zone could get you where you want to go, you’d already be there. 
6. Reach out for help when you need it. 
7. Focus only on the step you’re on. Trying to see the entire path ahead will only result in more resistance and overwhelm. 
8. Don't beat up on yourself for not doing it perfectly. Let go of perfectionism.
9. Be patient (impatience is scarcity mindset!), keep the faith, and use the tools in this program to stay focused on what you are manifesting, and on how far you've come, NOT on what you don't have, yet.
10. Above all else, KEEP GOING. The people who succeed are those who choose a learner's perspective and don't let disappointments stop them from moving forward with a great attitude and an empowered perspective. 

The only way this "doesn't work for you" is if you don't put in the work, don't use the tools, don't show up and ask questions, don't follow the coaching we give you... and if you QUIT. There's no way to fail unless you stop. 

As you agreed to on a recorded line during your enrollment call, and as is stated in the terms and conditions of this website, due to the "non-returnable" nature of the coaching process and of digital content, and due to the differing levels of effort and commitment on the part of different users, there are no guarantees and no refunds.

Full terms and conditions are located here: https://www.mylast.love/pages/terms

As much work as I have put into this program to make it as comprehensive as possible, there are limits to what I could fit into one program. We should all be continuing to learn, grow, and evolve, throughout our brief time on this planet. The books you will find at the link below can be looked at as your continuing education. They may reinforce what you've learned here, help you see it in a new way that "clicks" with you, and/or teach you some brand new concepts. 

https://www.amazon.com/shop/natalie.kita.lovecoach/list/RZV1N28V8K8Q?ref_=aipsflist_aipsfnatalie.kita.lovecoach

Disclosure: As an amazon influencer, I do earn a small commission on sales of these books when purchased through this link, but there are no books on this list that I haven’t read myself (some more than once because they are soooo good!), and I believe each one of them is immensely insightful and helpful.