My Personal Journey:

From "bad at love"... to blissfully married to the love of my life.

Years ago, while still healing from the end of my 17-year marriage, I dove head first into the crazy world of online-dating (which didn’t even exist yet at the time I had gotten married).

Here’s how that went for me (Tell me if it sounds familiar):

I spent lots of money on dating services and apps (and more than a few dating gurus’ programs).

I went on awkward date after awkward date...

I got ghosted by some... catfished by others...

I fielded hundreds of lackluster, rude, inappropriate, and even sometimes downright abusive messages from potential “matches”...

I met some guys who were only interested in hooking up

I met some decent guys where there was nothing in common or just no real spark or connection.

I met some lying, cheating, married guys 😡

I met some crazy stalker-types and had to learn how to use the “Block” function on my phone

I had a few “mini-relationships” that just didn’t go anywhere...

…and I eventually wound up getting entangled in a life-draining, soul-sucking, manipulative, gas-lighting relationship with a covert narcissist….

That was the breaking point.

After a few years of dealing with all that, to be brutally honest...

I was not sure the kind of love I truly craved even existed…

(Have you ever felt this way?)

My friends didn’t help by telling me that I was just “too picky.”

Our youth-obsessed society didn’t help by telling me that women my age were basically invisible to men. (I was in my mid-40s at the time.)

The “dating gurus” I was following online didn’t help… Because my sense of ethics and my core value of authenticity would not allow me to play games like hard to get…

Or worse yet, twist myself into a fake, weak, helpless “damsel in distress” to manipulate a guy into needing to rescue me.

(No matter what catchy phrases they tried to use to convince me it wasn’t game-playing, I knew better… know what I mean?)

And my own brain didn’t help, either…

I worried about being too “curvy” to attract a high quality guy…

I worried that my status as a three-time divorcee would make me undesirable to men. (Yep you read that right— Before marrying the father of my children, I’d had two brief “starter” marriages when I was really young.)

And the narcissist who shall remain nameless certainly didn’t help — since he had also managed to get me worrying that my past love history made me basically “damaged goods.”

(It still makes me mad when I think about that!)

Voices from every direction were telling me I would probably need to “settle” or just get comfortable with being alone.

But then I had what I like to call a major “DUH” moment….

I said to myself, “Self (because that’s what I call myself when I’m being sassy) — Why aren’t you applying the same principles to manifesting love, that you’ve used to manifest business and financial success?”

(LIGHT BULB!) 💡

So, I started writing out a plan…

But…. (there’s always a “but,” isn’t there?)

I quickly realized that there was a whole different set of blocks that I had to work on when it came to manifesting love…

And a whole different set of blocks would require a whole different set of techniques to remove them.

Don’t get me wrong - many of the principles were the same.

Manifesting is manifesting, right? High vibration is high vibration!

But when it came to love… my emotions were so much more involved, and so much more… RAW. (know what I mean?)

To be frank with you, those wounds were deep. And it was a little daunting to even look at healing them (which I knew I’d need to do to manifest the kind of lasting love I wanted more than anything.)

So I started on a research mission, once again, just as I had done to learn to manifest financial abundance and career success.

I wasn’t just looking for how to attract a great guy… I was looking for how to attract THE great guy…

And then how to GROW and nurture that relationship…

And then how to maintain that relationship so that I wouldn’t wind up tearing it all down again in another 6 months to a year to start all over again.

I wanted OFF that hamster wheel. Sound familiar??

So I added what I learned to what I already knew about making the law of attraction work in my life. I added what I learned in therapy when I was healing from “the relationship (#entanglement) that shall not be named.”

I added what I learned in my training as a Master NLP Practitioner and Hypnotherapist.

I even added a few of the “rare gems” I learned from some of the better dating gurus out there. (They’re not all bad - even a broken clock is right twice a day, right?!)

I stirred it all up, spiced it up with a little bit of what I know about how attraction and chemistry work, from yet another past life experience (I’ll tell you more about that later)… and I organized it all into a 30-day plan…

And I put mySELF on the plan.

The results?

🤯 Astonishing.

Beautiful. 🥰

Making me smile still, as I write this years later...

17 days into my plan, I met THE guy.

💖 The guy who ticked all the boxes. (I. mean. every. last. one.)

💖 The guy who wants the same things I want.

💖 The guy who believes in and values the same things I do.

💖 The guy who makes my heart melt.

The guy who leaves love notes on my pillows, buys my favorite chai tea, makes future plans with me, does romantic things, and gives great gifts!

The guy who tells me every single day that I’m beautiful, that he loves me, and that he’s grateful to have me in his life.

The guy who gives me all of the physical affection I could ever want.

The guy who trusts and honors me.

The guy who supports and encourages me.

The faithful guy.

The devoted, commitment-minded guy.

The generous guy.

The hard-working guy.

The handsome, sexy, fun, fit, smart, successful guy.

The guy who is not threatened by my intelligence, my success, my past, or my friendships, because he is secure in himself.

The guy who speaks ALL of my love languages.

The guy who has never ONCE left me wondering how he feels about me.

I met THAT guy 17 days after starting my 30-day plan…

And then, just 9 days after we met, we mutually declared it as an exclusive, committed, long-term relationship.

I didn’t need to beg, bargain, manipulate, or fear the conversation, because both his words and his actions aligned to make it clear that it was what he wanted, too.

And now, 8 years later, we are happier than ever as husband and wife. It honestly just keeps getting better all the time…

It’s not stale, or boring… Nor is it drama-filled and anxiety-laden.

Nope. It’s actually right in that “sweet spot” where passion, excitement, comfort, and peace, intersect.

(Who knew THAT was even a thing, right??) 🤔

And do you want to know WHY it keeps getting better?

Because I didn’t listen to the voices that told me to settle.

Because I chose to believe I was worthy.

Because I chose to believe he was out there. (and available to me—yes, ME, with all my flaws!)

Because I did what I needed to do to heal those old wounds.

Because I upgraded my beliefs around love, and raised my vibration to a point where we were magnetically drawn into each other’s lives.

Because there is infinite love available in the Universe, and I am an infinite being to whom that love is infinitely available.

Because I AM love.

We all are! ❤️

Now, listen…

I’m not saying everyone's love story will unfold exactly as mine did.

All I’m saying is it is totally do-able to manifest healthy, fulfilling, lasting love, with the RIGHT partner.

I know this to be true, 100%.

If a 40-something, thrice-divorced, mother of two with some “extra fluff” on her frame can do it... anyone can.

You deserve this.

A true, committed, happy, healthy, fulfilling partnership of equals...

One that makes your heart sing.

One that stands the test of time.

One that makes you thankful that you never settled.

One that proves why it’s a GOOD THING that it never worked out with anyone else.

If you actually read this whole thing, I'm thinking this just might matter to you. A LOT. 

Click here to contact me for help getting there.