FAQ
(Frequently Asked Questions)
Technical FAQs
The main page of the program is:
https://www.mylast.love
Please bookmark this link for easy access. Use this link to get to the main page of the program from any device. From here, you can log in and view your modules and other course content. If you run into login issues, start back at this main page.
(If you don't know how to bookmark a page, copy and paste the link into a note on your computer, and name the note something that you can remember and search. If you don't know how to do that, then write it down somewhere safe.)
The program materials are web-based, which means you do not need to download anything. Everything sits on a server, and you can get to that server with this link:
https://www.mylast.love
When you click that link, a new tab or browser window will open with the main course page displayed. On this homepage is a link that says Login. Click that link to get to the sign-in page.
On the sign-in page, enter your credentials. This will be your email and password. If you do not remember your credentials, please see the previous answer.
When you signed up for access to the program, your enrollment coach set up your access with an email address and an initial password. The email address is where any email updates and news tidbits are being sent. If you receive any updates or news from Natalie or the program in your email inbox, that is the email you need to use when logging in. As for the password, if you do not know what it is, there are a few ways to handle that:
- The login page has a password reset link at the bottom. You can click that to reset your password.
- Contact us so we can email you that information. Your password is something that we do not have access to view. All we can do is tell the system to send it to your email.
If you are having issues resetting your password, or using your password to log in, here are the most common problems:
1) You have copied and pasted your password, and accidentally hit the space bar, or copied over an extra empty space before or after your email or password.
2) You have forgotten to use the shift key to capitalize something.
3)You have typed in the wrong password, or there is a typo in your password.
4) You have typed in the wrong email, or there is a typo in your email.
5) You have used an EXPIRED "reset password" link. (Those links are only good for a couple of hours, so once you request a reset, use it right away.)
6) You are trying to use your old password, after you have already requested a password reset.
Hot tip: It is soooooo much easier to figure out password issues and get it right on a computer, as opposed to your phone! After you've reset your password and it is working on your computer, THEN try it on your phone.
If you are still having trouble after following this process, please contact Greg at [email protected] so we can reset your password for you.
First, understand that the server on which the program sits has nothing to do with whether or not you are logging in from a computer, tablet, or phone. Think of our course and website as a house. A house has a key to gain entry. That key is your login credentials -- i.e. your email address and password. How you get to the house does not change how the key works. If you get to the house by walking, by bicycle, or by car, that does not change your key. The same is true with getting to our program site. It does not matter if you are using a computer, a tablet, a phone, etc.
Most time, we find that the web browser you are using has saved your credentials. It is a nice feature that allows you to just click an old link in an email to get to the site, and your browser actually logs you in automatically. However, sometimes people change their password while on their computer, and the computer saves the updated password. However, your phone does not know this, and it might be trying to use your old password. This is usually the cause of a login problem. Instead of trying an old link from an email, tap in your browser's address bar and type in the main page for the course: https://www.mylast.love. Make sure there is nothing additional that your phone or browser is trying to add to this link address. Once at the main page, tap the Login link at the top of the page. You will be redirected to the login page where you can enter the proper credentials.
Other times, people make an assumption that they need to use a different email when logging in from their phone. As mentioned above, your login credentials DO NOT change just because you are getting to the course website from a different device. Use the same email and password that works on your other device. Those are the correct credentials to log in.
Another thing we have found is that people just mistype their password when logging in on their phone. It happens. Those phone keyboards are pretty tiny, and it is very easy to accidentally add a space or hit the wrong letter. Double-check you have entered your password correctly.
If none of this works, see the previous answer about forgetting your credentials.
We recommend using the Google Chrome browser. It seems to work best with everything. You may use any browser you choose, but we cannot test and support them all. However, many clients are successful with using the Apple Safari browser. Most of it is a personal preference. Just know that not all browsers play nice with all web sites. If you end up trying to use some super-secure and obscure web browser, you may run into issues due to super-secure settings on that browser. It will be up to you to figure out how to get those settings to work properly.
If you wish to download and install the Google Chrome browser, you can do that here:
https://www.google.com/chrome/dr/download/
The short answer is "No." We might be able to provide SOME technical guidance on the basics of navigating whichever site you are trying to use. However, when it comes to login issues, we have no control over that. Websites are responsible for their own technical support, especially when it comes to sensitive information such as login credentials. We can assist you with logging in to our own program website, but dating sites are out of our control. You will need to contact the technical support team for the dating site in question. You should be able to find a link to their contact information from their main site page. This is a general rule for all websites.
The short answer is "No." We might be able to provide SOME technical guidance on the basics of navigating whichever site you are trying to use. However, when it comes to login issues or technical support, we have no control over --and therefore, cannot provide support for -- anything outside of our own website.
Each website is responsible for its own technical support, especially when it comes to sensitive information such as login credentials. We can assist you with logging in to our own program website, and we can try our best to help you figure out how to use Zoom, since it is required to get onto coaching calls... but sites that we don't own are out of our control.
In addition, sometimes when you are having a problem, it may not be related to a website at all, but may have to do with the configuration of your own device (computer, phone, or tablet) or the reliability and set up of your internet service, wifi, etc. You will need to contact the technical support team for the site, device, or service in question. You should be able to find a link to their contact information from their main site page. This is a general rule for all websites, services, and devices.
First, make sure you camera and/or speakers are enabled. Be sure you have not clicked on a "Mute" button in any on-screen audio/video controls. Software like Zoom will have separate buttons for audio and video settings, and a simple click of those buttons can turn a camera or speaker on and off. Those controls are usually at the bottom of your screen in a settings bar. You may need to quickly tap the screen on a mobile device to have the settings bar pop up briefly.
If the settings for your software or app do not appear to be the issue, the quickest and easiest fix for this is to simply restart your computer or mobile device.
Many times we find that someone was using their device for another meeting for for listening to music. At that time, the operating system of the device created a channel to the camera or speakers being used -- usually the speakers are some sort of Bluetooth-enabled earphones. However, the when the person is done with their call or music session, the operating system may not properly "let go" of the camera or speaker. So, when the person now goes into a Zoom meeting or wants to watch a video, the operating system still thinks it is using the camera or speaker from last time. Sometimes you can just go into your audio or video settings of your device to find out which camera or speaker is being used at the moment. We see a lot of folks who can't hear anything through their device's main speaker because the device is still connected to their Bluetooth-enabled earphones.
Rather than spend 30 minutes trying to trace the problem to any specific device, restarting your device will forcibly "let go" of any previous connections to a camera or speaker. It's a one-minute fix, and it saves everyone a lot of time and headaches.
A streaming video that is stopping and starting or seems jittery usually indicates an issue with Internet connection speed. This happens most often on mobile devices. Make sure your mobile device has WiFi turned on, you are connected to a WiFi access point, and your WiFi connection indicator shows a strong connection. If you are only using mobile data from your cellular plan, make sure your signal strength is good.
For mobile devices, the device will try to use WiFi, if enabled, but the device will also try to use the strongest signal possible most times. If you are in a place with a spotty WiFi connection, your device might start off using the WiFi connection but then bounce to use the cellular signal if the WiFi signal becomes too weak, even for just a few seconds. If the WiFi signal becomes a bit stronger again, your mobile device may try to switch back to WiFi. You end up bouncing constantly between the two signals as you stream, and your audio/video becomes choppy.
If you aren't streaming but instead just watching a video or listening to an audio file that you have already downloaded and things are still choppy, the most likely cause is the number of apps running or tabs open in your browser. Devices, no matter how powerful, have a limit to the number of things they can handle at once. Some folks just naturally work with many, many browser tabs and windows open as they move from site to site. Having your device work with all of that in the background while you try to watch a video just becomes too much for the device to handle. Make sure you close all unnecessary apps and browser windows/tabs.
It is recommended that you use a computer or tablet to watch the lesson videos and read the written content in the modules. This recommendation is simply because it is easier for many people to see and find things on a larger screen. However, the program does not require you to own a computer. Many people have been successful using only a phone.
For the audio sessions, most people find that listening on their phone is a much more convenient option. You don't have to download the audios to listen, just click/tap of the play button, to listen right from your phone.
You can access the website from your phone using your favorite browser and going to our main page at https://www.mylast.love. Use the EXACT SAME email and password you use to log into the website from a computer.
Everything will look and function almost identical to what it looks/functions like when you go to the website on your computer. You will notice a layout difference, however, since a phone or tablet has a smaller screen than a computer or PC. Therefore, some items will be re-arranged to fit the screen. Specifically, you may notice that any downloads for a lesson might be pushed to the very bottom, so you might have to scroll a bit to find some things.
You can easily update your payment method on our website at https://www.mylast.love
First, you need to log in with the same credentials you always use to log in to your program. (We recommend doing this on a computer if possible, or a tablet, just for the ease of finding things, as opposed to a phone, unless that's all you have available.)
If you are unsure of how to update your payment method, here’s a little tutorial:
Once a payment agreement is entered into our system, it is all handled in an automated way by a third-party payment processor, and we have no control over changing payment terms. This means that we cannot change your payment date. The better solution would be to change your payment method to one that has sufficient funds (changing from a debit card to a credit card, for instance).
You can easily update your payment method on our website at https://www.mylast.love
First, you need to log in with the same credentials you always use to log in to your program. (We recommend doing this on a computer if possible, or a tablet, just for the ease of finding things, as opposed to a phone, unless that's all you have available.)
If you are unsure of how to update your payment method, here’s a little tutorial:
General Program FAQ
Your Last Love Method™ Online Only program membership includes:
- 1 year of access to the online course - 80 lessons/10 Modules, including the Super attractors' Modern Dating Toolkit (Module 10, which used to be sold separately as a standalone program)
- 1 year of access to the Audio Library: 48 targeted subconscious re-imprinting audio sessions (meditations, exercises, and hypnosis recordings)
- 1 year of access to all past, present, and future recorded coaching call replays
- "Lifetime" Membership in the private Facebook community
- A discount off the non-member price for private, one-on-one coaching calls (Send an email to [email protected] for details on 1:1 coaching pricing)
Let me start by asking you this: Do you want a healthy, committed, loving relationship?
Assuming the answer is yes, how much time per week are you willing to give to that relationship/partner? Between calls, texts, dates, etc.,.... do you think you can build and sustain a loving relationship giving it less than 6 hours a week (out of 168) of your time and attention?
I would venture once you find that ideal partner, you would be giving him MUCH more than 6 hours a week, but I'd say 6 hours a week is the bare minimum.
So... if you want to be able to give HIM 6 hours, you need to start carving out that time for YOU, right now. That's part of the work, right there. Making space for love in your life, by giving YOURSELF that time, now, in service of the goal of a healthy, loving relationship.
So, how, then?
Well, for starters you have one hour a week to jump on a live coaching call (or watch a replay if you can't do a live one).
Then, let's say you do one lesson per day, and let's say you do 2 lessons on Saturday and/or Sunday. (Some modules are super quick and some take longer... and some lessons are super quick and don't even have any homework, while others will take you longer, but it's an average of less than 1/2 hour per lesson). So let's say it's a full 30 minutes per lesson (it's not, but I'm being generous here) That's still a total of only 4 1/2 hours for the week. Add that to your coaching call and you're at 5 1/2 hours.
Of course, you don't have to do one lesson every day. Some people choose to save them all up for Saturday and/or Sunday (or whatever their days off from work might be)
"But what about the audios and practices, Natalie?"
Well, the practices can mostly be done in mere seconds (not even minutes) as needed at any time of the day, as they are mostly simply thought processes.
As for the audios, there's no excuse not to do them, because some of the audios are less than 2 minutes, and most of your audios don’t have to add any extra time to your day at all.
For example:
- You could listen to one of your “quickie” audios while brushing your teeth and getting dressed in the morning (no extra time!)
- You could listen to your 90-second mojo moments during bathroom breaks (no extra time!)
- And you could put your hypnosis tracks (or longer meditations) on while you drift off to sleep at night. (no extra time!) Yes, it's totally fine and still works if you fall asleep during the audios!
In addition, for video lessons (at least the ones without homework) and coaching call replays, they can be listened to while driving or doing chores around the house like dishes, laundry, cooking, etc.
By connecting the audio sessions to things you’re already doing, you make this mental/emotional/energetic “hygiene” a normal part of your life, instead of stressing over “fitting it all in.”
This is a self-paced program, so depending on how fast you want to get out of the pain you’ve been in, and into a loving relationship, you can determine how much time you devote to it. We’ve had people go through the program in as little as 2 weeks, and just stay on for the coaching calls… and we’ve also had people take a lot longer to get through the program. The strongly *recommended* pace is 6-9 weeks to finish the online modules, so you don't lose momentum. We find that if people procrastinate, they get stuck in perfectionism and will let their fear and resistance take over, start procrastinating, and lose momentum… so then, of course, we can’t get results that way, right?
So it’s up to you how fast you want to go, but following the recommended pace, you’d be doing one module per week, so you might invest between 5-40 minutes a day, depending on the day plus one hour per week for your coaching call… which of course, is much less than the time you would be devoting to your partner once you find him through this program… because part of the process is MAKING time and space for that love in your life, right??
By doing the work in this way, you will not only get done in the recommended time frame, you will also ce creating new habits that add up to powerful, positive, and permanent changes in your life.
Remember, love is a choice, and an ACTION. Self love is the same. All the self love quotes in the world, and even “feelings” of self love, are meaningless unless couples with ACTS of self love. Keeping your commitments to yourself (just as you’ll expect your future partner to keep his commitments to you) is the most important act of self love.
We’ve had lots of very busy women – including business owners and medical or legal professionals who are also single moms -- manage to do the program in these time frames, and we believe in you and your ability to do it, too.
IF YOU JOINED ON OR AFTER 11/23/24, you have one year of access to the program, which includes:
- all lessons/modules
- all audios in the audio library
- all recorded coaching call replays in your course portal
- the online community (currently in the form of a Facebook group but subject to venue change in the future)
- all bonuses (in the course portal) that were originally included with your enrollment
At the end of your one year of access, you will be provided the means to download or save most of the content, so you could keep it forever if you want to save it on your own computer. If you don't wish to store the content on your own device, you will be given the option to extend access with the payment of a small monthly access fee.
IF YOU JOINED *BEFORE *11/23/24, you have grandfathered “lifetime” access to all the online components of this program (not including personal email coaching or live group coaching calls).
To be clear, “lifetime” access refers to the lifetime of the program (aka, until Natalie retires and takes down the website). You also have the ability to download, screenshot, or copy and paste most of the program content, so you could conceivably have the content forever for your own personal use, IF you choose to take the time to capture and save it on your own device.
The online only version of the YLLM program does NOT include email coaching, or the ability to attend live coaching calls, or the ability to submit questions for live coaching calls.
If you have a technical question, and need help with the website, access, log in, etc., please send an email to [email protected]
If your question is about an assignment in the program, or your love life, etc., those are considered coaching questions. We are not able to answer such questions on calls or via email, but you can post those questions to the Facebook group, where everyone can benefit from the answer, and one of our coaches will attempt to answer, as soon as we can. You may also ask questions in the comment section under a lesson in the program, if you prefer. There is a limit to how much coaching help we can offer, even via those channels to online only members. Please understand that members of our full coaching program have paid quite a significant price difference for the privilege of getting personal help, so if you want that level of help, you would need to invest at the level.
If you would like the ability to get your questions answered live on coaching calls, and/or to reach out via email for email coaching, you would need to upgrade into the full coaching version of the program. Please send an email to [email protected] to inquire about next steps to upgrade.
You may also purchase private coaching calls with Natalie or any of the other coaches, by using the links below. Please note that private coaching is not cheap, and you might be better off upgrading to the full coaching program, depending on how much help you need. Also, please note that calls with Natalie are twice the price* of calls with the other coaches.
Links to purchase* and book private coaching calls (For YLLM Online Only Clients):
With Natalie:
1 hour call - https://www.mylast.love/offers/vNUQBiSW
Two 1/2 hour calls - https://www.mylast.love/offers/tosm47pN
With Joanne:
1 hour call - https://www.mylast.love/offers/jG8xz82V
Two 1/2 hour calls - https://www.mylast.love/offers/DhFHXzeP
With Beth:
1 hour call - https://www.mylast.love/offers/aFdwSUiZ
Two 1/2 hour calls - https://www.mylast.love/offers/3aVomLEF
With Julia:
1 hour call - https://www.mylast.love/offers/ow4AqFAQ
Two 1/2 hour calls - https://www.mylast.love/offers/PW2hNuut
*Calls with Natalie are $600/hr.
*Calls with other coaches are $300/hr.
For the answer to this question, click here to watch the video:
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To learn the answer to this question, please click here to watch this short video: https://www.mylast.love/online-audio-calendar
To learn the answer to this question, please click here to watch this short video: https://www.mylast.love/how-to-get-remotivated
Program Site Navigation (Where To Find Stuff)
Once you have logged into the program website, you will see a link titled My Stuff at the top of the webpage. Click that link to see all of your programs and content. You were most likely granted access to several chunks of content (such as the actual program, coaching call replays, bonus materials, etc.) Each bit of content is in its own block or box, and there should be a link or button in each block titled ACCESS PROGRAM which you can click to access the content. The main program materials are usually the first block listed or shown if you are looking top-to-bottom and left-to-right. The main program is called "Your Last Love Method."
Once you have logged into the program website, you will see a link titled My Stuff at the top of the webpage. Click that link to see all of your programs and content. You were most likely granted access to several chunks of content (such as the actual program, coaching call replays, bonus materials, etc.) Each bit of content is in its own block or box, and there should be a link or button in each block titled ACCESS PROGRAM which you can click to access the content. The block you are looking for is entitled "Coaching Call Replays."
In addition, you can access the coaching call replays form the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1, of the main program.
The Facebook group (Super Attractors Inner Circle) for this program is located here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yllmonlineonlymembers
You can also search for "YLLM Online Only Members" from within the Facebook website.
When searching for posts within a Facebook group, you need to be in the Facebook group itself.
To get into a specific Facebook group to which you belong, follow these steps:
- On a computer/PC/Mac:
- Go to https://www.facebook.com/
- On the left-hand side of the screen, click the Groups menu item to list your groups.
- On the left-hand side of the screen, you can either:
- click the name of a specific group if it is listed (because you recently browsed it), OR
- click the Your groups menu item to list your groups on-screen and then click on the group you want to search
- Once inside the group, you will see a magnifying glass icon at the right-hand side of the screen. Click this icon to bring up the search box.
- A pop-up search box will be displayed. The placeholder text in the text box should say "Search this group".
- You may see a listing of recent search terms you used
- You will also see an option that allows you to search all of Facebook and not just the group. If you elect to use that option, you will get many irrelevant results since you are no longer just searching within the group you picked.
- Type any text for which you want to search within the group. For example, if you wanted to find any posts that had the words "coaching call", type the text "coaching call" into this box.
- Click the drop-down option that says "Search this group for [TEXT_YOU_ENTERED]".
- Facebook will then display a listing of posts that contain the text for which you were searching.
- On your mobile device using the Facebook app:
- Open the Facebook app
- Along the top is a menu bar of icons. Find your profile picture icon with the little menu symbol on it, and tap that icon.
- In your personal menu, find the item Groups and tap on that item.
- You are taken to the Groups section of the app where you can see a menu bar at the top. You can drag the menu bar left/right to find the menu item for Your groups. Tap the Your groups menu item.
- You will be presented with a list of your groups. Scroll through the list to find the group you want to search. Tap the listing for that group.
- Once inside the group, you will see a magnifying glass icon at the top of the screen. Tap that icon to bring up the search window.
- At the top of the search window is a text box into which you can enter the text for which you wish to search. The placeholder text may say "Search in [GROUP_YOU_SELECTED]".
- You may see a listing of recent search terms you ysed.
- You will also see an option that allows you to search all of Facebook and not just the group. If you elect to use that option, you will get many irrelevant results since you are no longer just searching within the group you picked.
- Type any text for which you want to search within the group. For example, if you wanted to find any posts that had the words "coaching call", type the text "coaching call" into this box.
- A drop-down box will appear with your search term. You may see multiple terms displayed. Tap the term that best fits what you want. Most likely, it will be the same as the text you entered into the search box.
- Facebook will then display a listing of posts that contain the text for which you were searching.
On a computer/PC/Mac:
Any available downloads will be on the right-hand side of the screen just below the video listings window and to the right of the lesson text. Keep in mind that if you re-size the screen, items will be rearranged to fit your screen or window. If this happens, the listing of available downloads will be pushed to the very bottom of the screen. You will have to scroll down to the bottom of the page to view the downloads.
On a mobile device:
Mobile device screens are generally smaller in size than a standard computer screen. Therefore, items will be rearranged just as noted above if resizing a computer screen. Any available downloads will be pushed to the bottom, and you will have to scroll down to the bottom of the page to view the downloads.
Click here for the audio library.
As with every important part of this program, the audio library can also be found by going to the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1.
Click here for the program audio calendar.
As with every important part of this program, the program audio calendar can also be found by going to the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1.
Program Content FAQs
The recommended pace to complete the online modules is about one module per week, although Modules 1 and 9 can probably be completed much quicker, so that would mean taking about 8 weeks to complete all 10 modules. Each module contains approximately 8 lessons, so this is a pace of about one lesson per day, plus doubling up on lessons on a Saturday or Sunday. Each lesson is only 5-15 minutes long, and for the 30% of lessons that have homework, allot an extra 20 minutes… This means that, on average, you are devoting approximately 20 minutes per day to lessons… and an extra 20 minutes on a Saturday or Sunday.
That said, you are free to go at whatever pace works for you, as long as you finish before your access expires. We just find that when people don't give themselves a time-frame, they tend to let life get in the way of their goals, and lose momentum. Don't let that happen to you!
It's time to get practice in two very essential life skills:
- Letting go of perfectionism. Perfectionism is really just a form of avoidance, and an excuse for giving in to fear. There is no "right" in this work. There is only truth. You don't need to do this "perfectly" for it to work.
- Moving past resistance. Wanting to backtrack is just a knee-jerk subconscious reaction to the fear of change. Remember -- your subconscious feels safer with what is familiar, even when the familiar is actually not what's best for you. If you don't move forward, nothing will change. And if you back-track, you can tell yourself you still intend to change, but you can at least delay it a little while longer.
Here's why we don't want you to backtrack:
Yes, we want you to go through ALL of the modules, in order. And yes, we want you to give it your best effort. But this work is big, and it's deep. Honestly, this work should be happening throughout your entire life. Expecting to understand it and get it all "perfect" at any time is unrealistic.
You can always go back and do the entire course again, or revisit specific modules, after you're completed the program and are dating. In fact, we've had many clients repeat the entire course after they found their last love, just to understand themselves on a deeper level.
In the meantime, keep moving forward, never backward.
- Treat this program as you would if you were taking a college course, with deadlines. Take a module a week. Give extra time when you can.
- Don't expect it all to feel good. It WILL start to feel better from Module 5 on -- that's where it gets fun and everything starts to fall in place and make sense. But Modules 2-4 are going to be uncomfortable and challenging, so choose to embrace that -- The obstacle IS the way.
- Instead of thinking you have to feel a certain way to take action, decide that taking action IS what's going to change how you feel.
- Remember that trust in necessary for growth and success. Self-trust, and trust in the process.
- Focus ONLY on the step you are on. Don’t worry about what comes next. THAT is how we get overwhelmed. Just. This. Step.
- Listen to the Energy Clearing Meditation (in the Quickies section of the audio library), and use the symptom tree (module 1, lesson 1) OR reach out to me to get some more audio recommendations based on your specific current circumstances/feelings.
- Decide right now that done is better than perfect, and don't let perfect be the enemy of good. Remember that you can always go back and revisit/refine things later, if you desire, once you have finished all the modules. The less you can THINK, push, and edit, the better. Just allow, feel, and let flow and intuition guide you.
- Listen to The Inertia Cure (in the hypnosis section of your audio library).
- Look for the things you can be grateful for, in everything. "Breathing Gratitude" is a great mojo moment to use.
- Do NOT go back and repeat old modules just because you took a little time away from the program. Please don't do that. That is a big mistake that some people make, and it's just a way of procrastinating, staying stuck, and letting your resistance win. You especially don't want to stay stuck in excavation mode (modules 2-4). Sometimes, those early modules are what stirs up all the uncomfortable feelings, and the last thing you want to do is stop there. Trust the process and keep moving forward. (When you're walking through hell, keep walking -- the only way out is through!) If I feel you need to revisit certain lessons, I will tell you which specific ones are best for you. (Of course, you have to let me know what you’re dealing with, specifically, for me to give you the best coaching.) **Special notes about Module 4: 1-DO NOT try to clean out your basement, garage, attic, storage unit, etc., before moving on to the next module. Just your bedroom and the other room you spend the most time in will do. You can make a plan to do the rest after you finish the program. Don't use this piece as an excuse to stop and stay stuck. 2-If you are a widow, you do not need to toss things in the trash... just move them to a place that is out of your every day sight, and out of your bedroom.
- Not to be all Nike and cliche about this, but just do it. Fake it til you make it. Be it until you see it. Remember that any time a negative or disempowering thought comes into your awareness, you always have the power to choose the NEXT thought. And please, accept that transformation takes time, practice, and repetition. But don't continue to re-affirm the negative ones over and over again. We speak things into being all the time. Language is soooooo soooo powerful.
- Think of the time you spend working in this program as the time you will soon be devoting to your new/last love. Would you give him an hour each night (7 hours per week)…whether that be physically together, talking on the phone and or texting? Of course you would. So give that much time to YOU, now, by doing the work in this program. You invested in this already — time, energy, emotion, effort, and money. Don't let that investment go to waste.
- Return to this list any time you start feeling resistance again. Everyone goes through tough times at some point while going through this program. We lose friends, parents, pets, jobs, etc. Please note that I'm not trying to minimize anyone’s pain -- you feel it, therefore, it is valid. However, what happens in our lives, and what we feel about those things, and how we respond to those things and those feelings, are three separate things. It's in the latter two where resistance can be either succumbed to, or overcome.
- Remember that this program’s purpose is not ONLY to help you manifest your last love. It is a total life transformation. It is a chance to learn, grow, and gain tools you can use to manage yourself better, mentally, emotionally, and energetically… and to thereby ease a lot of the exact same feelings that are causing you to feel stuck right now.
- Remind yourself that, to a certain degree, being "overwhelmed" is necessary... We are trying to overwrite patterns that we have established over 4, 50, or even 60+ years. We are not just going to say a few affirmations on day 1 and be "fixed." We are over-writing literally decades of limiting beliefs, fears, and negative imprints on our brains. We need to immerse ourselves in the new things if we want to create those new brain connections.
- If you feel like the problem is “not enough time,” please go see the other FAQ above, entitled, “How can I fit this into my busy schedule?”
- If all else fails, remember that you invested a lot of time, money, and energy into this already, that you REALLY want this or you wouldn’t have done that... and that you don't want that to have all been for nothing.
All parts of this program are important. The lessons and modules are the "conscious learning" part of the program, while the audios get your subconscious mind on board with what you've learned... And the coaching call replays are where you get to hear about how to apply all of this in real life.
As for the audios, there's no excuse not to do them, because some of the audios less than 2 minutes, and most of your audios don’t have to add any extra time to your day. For example:
- You could listen to one of your “quickie” audios while brushing your teeth and getting dressed in the morning (no extra time!)
- You could listen to your 90-second mojo moments during bathroom breaks (no extra time!)
- And you could put your hypnosis (or longer meditation) on while you drift off to sleep at night. (no extra time!)
By connecting the audio sessions to things you’re already doing, you make this mental/emotional/energetic “hygiene” a normal part of your life, instead of stressing over “fitting it all in.”
To be frank, this is such a tough question to answer… because I’m aware there’s no way to do it without ruffling some feathers.
I have run into this question many times as a coach, in response to certain advice I give. The most common pieces of advice that people resist, include (but are not limited to):
- Cutting off friendships/communication with exes
- Getting rid of pictures/other items with/from exes
- Avoiding “friends with benefits” relationships or "situationships"
- Getting a profile up and doing online dating
- Using the profile templates we provide
- Using the dating sites we recommend
- NOT dating at all until finishing the modules
- Avoiding sex until you are in an exclusive, committed relationship
Here are the important points I want to make about this:
- You got the results you currently have by doing things the way you’re doing them now. To get different results, you will need to do things differently.
- None of my suggestions are arbitrary. They all have sound, proven reasons behind them.
- Everyone thinks their specific situation is the exception, but if it were, then it would be the rule, not the exception.
- The people who succeed in this program, are the ones who follow the coaching.
- You invested a lot to be here. It only makes sense to go all in and get what you paid for. You didn’t pay me to say “keep doing what you’re doing, and everything will work out fine.”
Now, the truth is, at the end of the day, you are a grown adult. You don’t have to do anything I advise. Feel free to take anything (or everything) I say with a grain of salt.
That said, what I won’t do is give you “permission.” If you want to do things your own way, you don’t need my permission. But if you do ask me, I’m going to be honest with you. And that means, I’m going to reiterate all the reasons my advice is to do things a certain way. Said with all the compassion in the world, I won’t “change my answer” because you ask me several different times in several different ways, or because you believe your situation is different from everyone else’s.
As a coach, it is my job to be honest — to tell you what I believe you need to hear, not what you want to hear. That’s what your friends are for — not your coach. (Although., honestly, if we were friends, I would still not be the kind of friend who only tells you what you want to hear. Ask any of my friends and they’ll tell you that’s true.)
I would be doing you a disservice to “give permission” for things I truly believe are detrimental to your goal of finding your last, greatest love and building a beautiful life with him.
It is your life, not mine. Yes, you know yourself better than I do…. and yet, we all have blind spots in our own lives when we can clearly see things going on in the lives of others. That’s why people hire coaches in the first place.
But again, you’re an adult, with free will, and you are the one who lives with your choices. I very much want to help you, and I do that the best way I know how. But YOU are the one responsible for making your choices and living with the results. Just think about what I’ve said here, that’s all I can ask.
The truth is that only about 10% of people who enroll in any sort of online learning program, ever complete the program. We are proud to have a much higher finish rate than most programs, but even so, it’s only about 50%. So how do you get results? Here’s how, in order of importance:
- Be in the 50% who actually finish the program
- Make yourself and your goals a priority.
- Follow the recommended program pace of about 1-2 modules per week (after the first module, which is short and easy, and therefore should only take a day or two). 1-2 modules per week = about 1-2 lessons per day.
- Watch at least 4 coaching calls per month.
- Actually follow the coaching, even (especially) if it feels uncomfortable. If your comfort zone could get you where you want to go, you’d already be there.
- Focus only on the step you’re on. Trying to see the entire path ahead will only result in more resistance and overwhelm.
- Don't beat up on yourself for not doing it perfectly. Let go of perfectionism.
- Be patient (impatience is scarcity mindset!), keep the faith, and use the tools in this program to stay focused on what you are manifesting, and on how far you've come, NOT on what you don't have, yet.
- Above all else, KEEP GOING. The people who succeed are those who choose a learner's perspective and don't let disappointments stop them from moving forward with a great attitude and an empowered perspective.
This program is laid out in a specific order, for a specific reason. Most people, therefore, find it pretty easy to navigate. That said, if you’re having trouble finding something, there are four things we recommend doing, in order:
- Check Module 1, Lesson 1 of your main program. The entire lesson is nothing but a list of links to just about anything you could possibly be looking for in the program. Always check there first. Scroll through the links slowly and carefully to find what you want.
- Use the “search” feature at the top right of any page (on your computer) or by clicking on the 3 stacked horizontal lines then the word “search” (on your phone). Then, simply type in a few words about what you’re looking for, and look through the results that come up. NOTE: If you’re looking for a coaching call replay, be sure first that you’re in the coaching call replay program inside your course portal (under the “My Stuff” tab). If you’re looking for a lesson or audio session, make sure you are under your main program.
- Watch the video in Module 1, Lesson 2. That video will guide you visually through the entire course portal, and even the Facebook group. NOTE: You’ll see it better on a computer… but if you don’t have access to a computer, the last half of the video shows phone screenshots to help with navigation on your phone.
- Send an email to [email protected] and ask your question in specific terms with as much context as possible so we can help you. (Please use this step only if the first three steps haven’t yielded the results you need.)
This program will not self-destruct or disappear if you don’t complete it in the recommended time frame. You have “lifetime” access (meaning, the lifetime of the program, or until Natalie retires and takes the website down). You also have the ability to download, screenshot, and copy-paste almost all of this content for your own personal use, so you could conceivably have “forever” access.
Take action. Put up at least one dating profile and follow the guidelines for your proactive search for your last love. Get out there in the world and meet people. Continue using the audios and other daily practices as a much-needed form of mental emotional/energetic “hygiene.” Stay active and positive in the Facebook group, and continue coming to coaching calls until your coaching time is up (and beyond that, if you choose to enroll in the continuity program for continued support).
If you joined the program after June 1, 2023, you shouldn’t need to print anything, as you have a printed workbook that contains all the worksheets. However, if you joined before June 1, 2023, a printed workbook was not included in your program. You have a few options in this case:
Option 1: Print each download as it comes up in the lessons of the program, on your home or office printer.
Option 2: Send all the files to your local Staples, OfficeMax, or UPS Store for printing. This option will end up costing you about $75.
Option 3: Download the pdfs, view them on your device, and write down everything in the worksheets down by hand. This option is more labor-intensive, and may also be confusing.
Option 4: Use a friend’s computer/printer to print everything. This option may be inconvenient for you, and annoying to your friend.
Option 5: Order a workbook from us, by clicking the link, here. (It's only $35, which is cheaper and/or easier than all the other options.)
If you joined the program after June 1, 2023, you shouldn’t need a printer, as you have a printed workbook. If you joined before June 1, 2023, a printed workbook was not included in your program. You have a few options in this case:
Option 1: Send all the files to your local Staples, OfficeMax, or UPS Store for printing. This option will end up costing you about $75.
Option 2: Download the pdfs, view them on your device, and write down everything in the worksheets down by hand. This option is more labor-intensive, and may also be confusing.
Option 3: Use a friend’s computer/printer to print everything. This option may be inconvenient for you, and annoying to your friend.
Option 4: Order a workbook from us, by clicking the link, here. (It's only $35, which is cheaper and/or easier than the other options.)
Order a workbook from us, by clicking the link, here. (It's only $35, which is A LOT cheaper than sending all the files to OfficeMax or Staples for printing, and may be just as cheap as printing all the worksheets and checklists at home, considering the cost of ink and paper for so many pages.)
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As for module four, and the physical decluttering process, please remember that I don’t want you to declutter your entire home in order to be able to move on. All you really need to do to be able to move on from that module is create some space in your master bedroom… Meaning, clean out a drawer and a little sliver of closet space, and maybe a drawer in a nightstand on the other side of the bed from where you sleep. Then, of course, get rid of anything that contains negative energy reminds you of an ex, etc. Then you can just make a plan to Declutter the rest, maybe once a month you spend half a Saturday decluttering other spaces in your home, one space at a time, but move on, once you’ve made the plan. Don’t try to complete the entire thing before moving on.
You can direct the “I’m sorry” part and the “I love you” part to him as a little baby, before whatever turned him into what he became… which is not the kind of “I’m sorry” where you’re admitting guilt, but the kind where you’re sorry for that innocent child, knowing what he became… Depending on your spiritual beliefs, alternatively, you could also try directing those words to the "divine spark," or "spirit of God" that lives deep inside the person who wronged you.
If you still can’t get there, even thinking of it that way… Then you can address the "I’m sorry" and "I love you" part to the old version of yourself that that endured what your ex put you through.
Audio FAQs
There are several ways to get to the audio library in this program. Pick the one that works best for your purposes:
- Like most things you need to find in this program, the Audio Library can be accessed from the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1. This is best if you’re looking for a specific audio, or just want to browse the audios and pick one that speaks to you.
- In addition, you can access your assigned module-specific audios from the audio program calendar (also linked in the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1
- You can click on the links in the “Wrap Up” lesson in each module, to take you directly to a specific audio mentioned in that lesson. (Links are pink and underlined)
- You can click right here for the audio library, and navigate to the audio of your choice by scrolling through the library.
The appropriate audios will be prescribed to you in the Wrap-Up lesson at the end of each Module. However, the best place to go to find out what audios you should be listening to, when, and how often you should listen, is the program audio calendar, which is linked in the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1.
Or you can click right here for the program audio calendar.
I have good news for you — falling asleep during the audios can actually be a good thing! Your subconscious mind is ALWAYS listening, even when you’re sleeping. And when we sleep, our conscious mind takes a break from “arguing” with the positive suggestions you are being provided with in the audios… so the new, upgraded beliefs can go deeper into your brain. In fact, sleep is basically the deepest form of hypnosis there is!
Plus, if you are able to catch some Zzzzs AND re-train your brain at the same time, that is a win-win because you’re doing double duty and saving time in your busy schedule.
You’re in luck: This is exactly why I created The Symptom Tree! But where is the symptom tree, you ask? It is all the way at the bottom of the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1 of your main program.
Look for your “symptoms” or current situation/problem on the tree, and pick one of the audios listed underneath that symptom/situation.
There is a key, right above the symptom tree, that explains what section of the audio library you can find certain audios in. It goes by the initials of the sections, as follows:
H=Hypnosis
M=Meditations
MM=Mojo Moments
MSC=Miscellaneous
Q=Quickies and mini-meditations
If you don’t see what you’re looking for under the section it’s listed under, look for the “See More” link, and/or the “next” arrows.
PS As a reminder, The Symptom Tree is located at the bottom of the page in the links list in Module 1, Lesson 1.
The best time of day to listen to the audios IS.... whatever time you will actually listen to them!
In terms of "finding time" to listen, I recommend you think of it in terms of MAKING time for something that you have DECIDED is a priority for you.
But here's the even better news: Some of these audios less than 2 minutes, and most of your audios don’t have to add any extra time to your day. For example:
- You could listen to one of your “quickie” audios while brushing your teeth and getting dressed in the morning (no extra time!)
- You could listen to your 90-second mojo moments during bathroom breaks (no extra time!)
- And you could put your hypnosis (or longer meditation) on while you drift off to sleep at night. (no extra time!)
By connecting the audio sessions to things you’re already doing, you make this mental/emotional/energetic “hygiene” a normal part of your life, instead of stressing over “fitting it all in.”
Being hypnotized is NOT what you see in old black and white movies, or in Las Vegas stage shows. In fact, a lot of people THINK they “can’t be hypnotized,” because they have misunderstand what hypnosis really is, and because they have in their minds that hypnosis is “supposed” to FEEL a certain way… or because they have bought into prejudices against hypnosis (based on a misunderstanding of what it really is)… But hypnosis is actually a normal, natural mental process and state of the mind, and it feels different to different people. In fact, you are probably already going into a state of hypnosis several times a day without even realizing it. Have you ever driven to work, or back home again, and arrived with no real recollection of the drive itself? That's hypnosis! So contrary to popular belief, everybody can be hypnotized.
Even though hypnotists often use the word “trance,” all hypnosis is, is a deeply relaxed state of mind and body. Hypnosis is very effective for our clients. It is part of how this program helps women break their subconscious self sabotaging patterns. In fact, it is one of the things our most successful students credit most for the way their lives transform in our program.
That said–and here’s what’s really important–our program is made up of lessons, exercises, coaching, and audio recordings. The audio recordings make up only about 20% of this program… And only about 20% of those audio recordings are hypnosis sessions… And here’s the best part – Even if you only listen to those hypnosis audios thinking of them only as “guided deep meditations,” which is all hypnosis really is… they will still work to change your brain. What I’m saying is, even if you don’t feel “hypnotized,” that’s okay. They will still reprogram your mind, just like the other audios, which are in fact, mostly guided meditations.
And if you’re thinking, “I can’t meditate, either”... that’s 100% fine. This is not traditional “make your mind blank” meditation… If your mind wanders to a million things, if you fall asleep, if you lose focus on the words entirely, that doesn’t matter. It is your conscious mind that is doing the wandering, while your subconscious absorbs what is being said… which is really just another form of hypnosis.
Your subconscious mind recognizes and picks up on things your conscious mind cannot. Not every word of the audio sessions is even meant to be consciously heard and understood. In fact, a few of the sessions has no conscious-level vocals at all, but the vocals are embedded "underneath" the music and sounds to create an opportunity for subliminal influence. (Don't worry, there's nothing being said below the conscious threshold that isn't already said in some of our conscious listening audios.)
While it is rare that someone has a negative reaction to one of our audio sessions, it is not completely unheard of.
My best advice is to:
1) Completely let go of any expectation of what meditation or hypnosis is "supposed to" feel like. Like everything else, it can feel completely different from one person to another... and that's perfectly ok, and it can can still be effective, regardless. For some people, it feels like completely falling asleep. Some people just feel mildly relaxed. Some people consciously notice no difference at all... And occasionally, in some situations, rare people might experience a feeling of agitation and anxiety. Whatever your personal response is, is completely normal. It's when you start JUDGING your response and resisting the process, that you are more likely to experience issues. Let go of any expectation, and just listen as a casual, objective, unattached OBSERVER.
2) When you notice your mind wandering, do just that — NOTICE it only — no judgment, no trying to analyze WHY your mind is wandering, not beating yourself up, not interpretation of what it means that it wandered... just passive observation, followed by redirecting your mind to listen to the recording (if it's a meditation) or even just letting it continue to wander (if it's hypnosis and if that's more comfortable for you). Yes, you may need to do this a lot, or a few times, and that's ok, too.
3) If you experience discomfort in any part of your body while listening, breathe all the way into that spot, sending love and light and warmth there, and ask it to relax and release.
4) Decide and affirm before listening to any audio, that you are committing yourself to TRUSTING that this is all for your highest good, and to allow your whole being to relax and let go.
5) If you tend to have a really hard time trusting, try listening to an audio wide awake and sitting up straight (maybe even while doing something active with your body, like walking somewhere safe) while listening, for the first time…. so that your brain can hear that there’s nothing harmful and objectionable and allow you to relax and let go the next time.
6) Do the specific audio two more times, fairly close together, with an open mind. Things should get better with repetition, especially if you follow the other bits of advice above.
7) If you have tried all of the above, and still find yourself having trouble with a particular audio, it may be time to do some conscious and intentional work around the topic at hand... Additionally, you can replace that audio with a similar audio that doesn't have the adverse effect. (Send an email to [email protected] to ask what might be a good substitution for you.)
Please follow the audio calendar as closely as possible, no matter what pace you are going through the modules. It is best to treat the audio calendar and modules as separate, because it is important that you get the prescribed amount of repetition of the audios, as that is how the subconscious develops new, more empowering beliefs -- through repetition.
Dating & Relationship FAQs
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You are not necessarily doing anything wrong. You are more likely thinking about it wrong. This is a matter or having a counterproductive dater's mindset. The good news is, this can be easily changed if you really want to change your results, by adopting and embracing all the pieces of the successful dater's mindset.
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Here is a list of places to meet men:
- Meetup Groups (meetup.com)
- Workshops or Seminars
- Singles Cruises / Singles Conferences/Mixers (google “singles event near me”)
- speed dating/pairing events (Match.com sponsors a lot of these)
- Car Wash
- Gym
- Dog Park
- Volunteer/Charity/Community Event
- Driving Range/Golf Course
- Home Depot/Hardware Store (ask for help or advice)
- Craft Brewery or Winery
- Gourmet Section of Grocery Store
- Airport (when traveling)
- Coffee Shop
- Liquor Store (think spirits and wines or craft beers as opposed to Bud Lite)
- Cigar Bar
- Line Dancing / Country Night at a bar
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First, let me just say that we highly recommend messaging a man first if you find his profile intriguing. Let go of any "stigma" you think is associated with making the first move. The kind of man you want, is secure enough in his manhood to be okay with (and likely, delighted by) hearing from you, first.
And, we don't leave you wondering what to say, either. In Module 10, lesson 1, look for the "Messaging Formula," which will give you a great and easy formula to follow to get the attention of a great guy and make it easy for him to write you back.
Does using this formula guarantee a man will reply to your message? Of course not... But it does increase your chances of the right guy responding, and doing so with great interest instead of lukewarm curiosity.
Just remember, as always, there are 8 billion people in the world, and most of them aren't your person, and that's OKAY. If a man doesn't message you back, it says nothing about your worthiness or how loveable or attractive you are. It just tells you that either he is too busy to reply, his profile isn't real anyway, or you are not a right match for him, for any one of a million reasons. (Maybe you have a cat and he is highly allergic!) Regardless of the reason, all you need to know is that if you aren't a right match for him, then he isn't a right match for you, either. Don't waste an ounce of energy worrying over it. Save your energy for the guy who is the right match.
It is strongly recommended NOT to date while you’re in this program, for the following reasons:
- If you are busy dating, you will probably slack on doing the work in the program. There are only so many hours in the day, and if you’re excited about a new guy, he will not be the first thing to go. The work here, will.
- The goal of this program is not merely to “find a guy.” It’s to root out and break the toxic patterns that have caused us to attract and/or choose the wrong guys over and over again in our lives… or to sabotage whatever good relationships we’ve managed to manifest in the past. If you haven’t completed the work, you will likely repeat those patterns, so dating becomes not only pointless, but actually harmful.
- If you are dating someone while doing this work, it will be hard to resist the human desire to “make it fit.” You will see what you are learning through the lens of wanting to make it work with this one specific guy, so you can “just be done already,” and you will likely miss red flags and waste more time with the wrong person as a result.
- If you do end up in a relationship, and you slack off on doing the work while in it, you will waste your coaching time… and if that relationship ends, you might be past the end of your coaching time and starting at square one.
That said, if you were already dating someone seriously (as in, you're in a *relationship,* not just "talking to someone, not friends with benefits, not a situationship), we are obviously not going to tell you that you need to break up with him. However, being completely honest with yourself, if you were truly happy in this relationship, we have a feeling you wouldn't be here in the first place, so perhaps this program will be what gives you the clarity you need on whether or not you should walk away to open yourself up for something better.
In all dating scenarios other than a serious relationship, we recommend using this "dating hiatus" script to take a break and focus on yourself and the work you are doing here:
“While I do like you [or find you interesting/attractive, etc.], I've actually decided to take some time off from dating right now to focus on a personal project (or you could say an intensive course I'm taking / a personal development program I'm in). That will require all my attention for the next couple of months, but if you'd like, I can get back in touch then when I'm finished and can put my attention into dating again. Please let me know if you're open to that.”
It is strongly recommended NOT to date while you’re in this program, for the following reasons:
- If you are busy dating, you will probably slack on doing the work in the program. There are only so many hours in the day, and if you’re excited about a new guy, he will not be the first thing to go. The work here, will.
- The goal of this program is not merely to “find a guy.” It’s to root out and break the toxic patterns that have caused us to attract and/or choose the wrong guys over and over again in our lives… or to sabotage whatever good relationships we’ve managed to manifest in the past. If you haven’t completed the work, you will likely repeat those patterns, so dating becomes not only pointless, but actually harmful.
- If you are dating someone while doing this work, it will be hard to resist the human desire to “make it fit.” You will see what you are learning through the lens of wanting to make it work with this one specific guy, so you can “just be done already,” and you will likely miss red flags and waste more time with the wrong person as a result.
- If you do end up in a relationship, and you slack off on doing the work while in it, you will waste your coaching time… and if that relationship ends, you might be past the end of your coaching time and starting at square one.
That said, if you were already dating someone seriously (as in, you're in a *relationship,* not just "talking to someone, not friends with benefits, not a situationship), we are obviously not going to tell you that you need to break up with him. That said, if you were happy in this relationship, we have a feeling you wouldn't be here in the first place, so perhaps this program will be what gives you the clarity you need on whether or not you should walk away to open yourself up for something better.
In all dating scenarios other than a serious relationship, we recommend using this "dating hiatus" script to take a break and focus on yourself and the work you are doing here:
“While I do like you [or find you interesting/attractive, etc.], I've actually decided to take some time off from dating right now to focus on a personal project (or you could say an intensive course I'm taking / a personal development program I'm in). That will require all my attention for the next couple of months, but if you'd like, I can get back in touch then when I'm finished and can put my attention into dating again. Please let me know if you're open to that.”
To learn the answer to this question, please click here to watch this short video: https://www.mylast.love/dating-profile-tips
If you used the templates and included all the essential elements mentioned in Module 10, Lesson 3, the profile is not the problem.
Here’s what the problem COULD be (no assumptions made here, just sharing what the problem USUALLY is, when someone reaches out to me with this issue):
- You need to try a different dating site. Some sites/apps work better in some areas than others. Please revisit Module 10 for a list of recommended sites, and those we do NOT recommend.
- You are not being proactive, and reaching out to men (instead, only waiting for them to come to you)… and/or you are not using the messaging formula in Module 10 if you do reach out.
- You are not using the qualifying questions AND the guidelines in the intentional texting guide when messaging with men.
- You are approaching messaging in too much of a “business-like” manner, not being flirtatious and playful and light-hearted
- You are not giving men a chance just because their photos aren’t great (men are terrible at taking pictures), and/or your expectations and standards for superficial things like looks, financial success, educational stats are too tight, leaving you closed off to amazing possibilities based on deeper qualities of character and personality, and/or you are not “staying in your lane,” so to speak. When someone is trying to date much younger men, much wealthier men, etc., it doesn’t tend to go well.
- You have some very unusual or stringent requirements for a mate. (Example: must be unvaccinated, must NEVER drink alcohol, etc.) While it’s not impossible to find a man who meets these kinds of requirements, it does shrink the dating pool by quite a lot, which may make things take longer.
- You are focusing on quantity over quality. Having lots of dates is not the goal. To find the needle, you must burn the haystack. Most people are hay as far as your needs and desires are concerned. This is normal and expected In a world of 8 billion people, you only need to find one. Embrace the PROCESS, not just the end goal, and you will get to the goal faster and easier.
- You are bringing negative energy to the process, due to a negative attitude/belief/perspective toward dating. The new FAQ page has a helpful answer that deals with this, about a successful dater’s mindset. To learn all about what makes up the successful dater's mindset, please click below to watch this video (start at the 2 minute mark, and go to the 19:10 mark): https://www.mylast.love/products/coaching-call-replays-your-last-love-method/categories/2153481225/posts/2170142777
Maybe most of these don't apply to you, but it's highly likely that at least one of them does. These are the most common reasons women fail on dating apps. And for most people who struggle, it is usually 2-3 or more of these issues at play, simultaneously.
Finally, I have a few additional pieces of advice for you here:
1. Listen to the expansion meditation.
2. Listen to 8 minute magnetism.
3. Read and re-read Module 10, paying close attention. There's a lot there that many people miss the first time around.
4. Don't be afraid to add in some organic ways of meeting men. (Search the word "organically" on this FAQ page for ideas.)
5. Watch the "successful dater's mindset" lesson on page 2 of Module 10 lessons. Repeat as needed.
To answer this question, let me ask you a few questions:
- Are you looking for a man with a short attention span?
- Are you looking for the kind of man who doesn't like a woman who has a lot to say?
- Are you looking for the kind of man who's on the dating site to look at pictures and play the app like a video game, doesn't like to read, and doesn't want to know that much about you?
- Are you looking for the kind of man who is so rude that he takes time out of his day to message a stranger on a dating site just to tell her he DIDN'T like her profile?
- Are you looking to appeal to as many men as possible, or are you looking to appeal to THE man who is right for you, and resonates with everything you share, hanging on your every word because they tell him all the ways you are his dream woman?
When I was on the dating apps, I got tons of critical messages about my profile. Some examples:
- "This is too long. No man wants to read all of that."
- "You're too demanding. Good luck finding that man who doesn't exist."
- "Who do you think you are? Nobody wants to weed through all of that. No wonder you're single."
But do you want to know what MY man said, when he messaged me?
Greg said, "I spent hours poring over every word in your profile. It 's such a breath of fresh air to meet a woman who knows who she is and what she wants, and I can't believe how much we have in common. This just got interesting. ;)"
If I had dumbed down, shortened, or watered down my profile to appeal to the kinds of guys who criticized it, I probably would have missed out on the perfect man for me.
"More hits" is NOT what we want. In fact, the kind of guy who takes time out of his day to say something to you like that, is EXACTLY the kind of guy you want to repel. Repelling the wrong guys is just as much a part of this equation as attracting the right ones (if not more so).
Getting lots of views, likes, and messages may feel good to our egos... but it doesn't equate to finding love with the right partner, any more than getting lots of likes on a social media promotion (for a business) translates into getting paying clients.
In other words, quality over quantity. You have to burn the haystack to find the needle. Having a longer, more detailed profile is step one to burning the haystack.
We get this question quite a lot, and we have addressed it in some of our coaching calls. In fact, we get it so much that we made a video clip of the answer. You can find that video clip here:
https://www.mylast.love/who-pays-for-dates
To answer your question, you can find that video clip here: https://www.mylast.love/never-fall-for-a-narcissist-again-1
Miscellaneous FAQs
We cannot answer this question. Some people find their last love very quickly, within weeks of completing the program modules. Others take a lot longer, and need more real-life practice using the tools. Comparing yourself to those who've manifested faster is NOT productive. Instead, choose to see others' successes as inspirations and illustrations of what is possible and on its way to you.
Maybe your person isn't ready yet, maybe you aren't quite ready yet. Maybe the universe has one or both of you in a "holding pattern" until the right time.
Just remember, the time it takes is going to pass, no matter what. It is your choice to either spend that time happy and fulfilled and positively focused on what you are manifesting and what you are learning along the way... or negatively focused on what you don't have, yet. (Guess which option will help you manifest faster?) ;)
The scope of the coaching included in this program is related to your past, present, and future love life, only. Natalie is not able to offer professional coaching or coaching related to platonic friendships, family relationships, finances, career, etc., as part of this program. If you’d like help with those areas of your life, you can book a private coaching call at an additional cost. Inquire about private coaching via email: [email protected]
We do not offer a guarantee, for many reasons:
- If we offered a guarantee, that actually de-incentivizes people from doing the work for real.
- We put in the work and provide the coaching and tools on our end, but we have no way of knowing what you're actually doing on your end.
- Everyone has free will, their own issues to work through, their own circumstances, and their own time table is different for finding love. Anyone who tells you they can guarantee you will find love in a specific time frame, is full of it.
What I CAN guarantee you right now, is this:
- First, we can guarantee that we will give you everything you need to be successful, but what we can’t guarantee is that you will do the work. Are you the kind of person that asks for help when you get stuck or do you go and hide and not show up? Ok, then that’s why we are here to guide you so you get what you need when you need it. Make sense?
- The second guarantee is that, you are NOT guaranteed any number of tomorrows, but you will also never be as young as you are today, therefore, NOW is definitely the only time that makes sense to do this…
- And the final guarantee… is that, if you don’t change something BIG about your approach to love, you will stay exactly where you are now, doing all the things you've been doing, and getting the same results you've been getting, which I know is not what you want.
The cold, hard reality is that only about 10% of people who enroll in any sort of online learning program, ever complete the program. We are proud to have a much higher finish rate than most programs, but even so, it’s only about 50%. So how do you get results? Here’s how, in order of importance:
- Be in the 60% who actually finish the program
- Make yourself and your goals a priority.
- Follow the recommended program pace of about 1-2 modules per week (after the first module, which is short and easy, and therefore should only take a day or two). 1-2 modules per week = about 1-2 lessons per day.
- Show up to 4 coaching calls per month, and ask questions. (If you can’t make it live to that many, do 2 live calls and 2 replays per month.)
- Actually follow the coaching you receive, even (especially) if it feels uncomfortable. If your comfort zone could get you where you want to go, you’d already be there.
- Reach out for help when you need it.
- Focus only on the step you’re on. Trying to see the entire path ahead will only result in more resistance and overwhelm.
- Don't beat up on yourself for not doing it perfectly. Let go of perfectionism.
- Be patient (impatience is scarcity mindset!), keep the faith, and use the tools in this program to stay focused on what you are manifesting, and on how far you've come, NOT on what you don't have, yet.
- Above all else, KEEP GOING. The people who succeed are those who choose a learner's perspective and don't let disappointments stop them from moving forward with a great attitude and an empowered perspective.
The only way this "doesn't work for you" is if you don't put in the work, don't use the tools, don't show up and ask questions, don't follow the coaching we give you... and if you QUIT. There's no way to fail unless you stop.
As you agreed to on a recorded line during your enrollment call, and as is stated in the terms and conditions of this website, due to the "non-returnable" nature of the coaching process and of digital content, and due to the differing levels of effort and commitment on the part of different users, there are no guarantees and no refunds.
Full terms and conditions are located here: https://www.mylast.love/pages/terms
As much work as I have put into this program to make it as comprehensive as possible, there are limits to what I could fit into one program. We should all be continuing to learn, grow, and evolve, throughout our brief time on this planet. The books you will find at the link below can be looked at as your continuing education. They may reinforce what you've learned here, help you see it in a new way that "clicks" with you, and/or teach you some brand new concepts.
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